So my fiancé has chosen my brother as one of his groomsmen, and he is giving everyone a pair of designer sunglasses as one of his gifts. So, I asked my brothers' girlfriend to try and secretly bring him to a sunglasses store to see what he likes.
Side note: I am pretty sure that his girlfriend and I are pretty close, I'm not super fond of her but I love my brother dearly and I make a huge effort to spend time with her when I'm in the area (I live upstate, they live on long island). She has been with my brother for something like 4 or 5 years. We exchange Christmas gifts and stuff like that (as if that's the measure of a friendship, ha ha).
As soon as I sent the message, before she even answered, my brother texted me frantically that she is upset and feeling disconnected from the wedding and she doesn't want him walking down the aisle with someone else. I do not want her to be a bridesmaid, my fiancé and I have 4 people in our wedding party each (8 total) and I don't want it to be lopsided and I DON'T want to have 10 total because it just makes everything more complicated.
I asked him if including her in wedding preparation would help, and he said it wasn't that. I think that if she does help she wants to be in the wedding party and if she isn't, she doesn't want to be part of it. I feel like asking her to help was a big mistake.
I want her to be happy because she isn't terrible and also she could probably make my life much harder or get my brother to drop out of the wedding party. She wants to walk down the aisle with my brother but it's only the wedding party that walks down the aisle.
WHAT DO I DO?!
Thank you everyone in advance.
EDIT: Thank you everyone for the swift support! TheKnot is the best.
So much love!
I've decided to just completely ignore it and just be nice to her and pretend nothing happened.