My fiance and I aren't getting married until April 2017, but we have already booked the venue and big stuff as the people we wanted are already booked out until the end of 2016. Being prepared is a big thing for us. Unfortunately, we have hit a bit of a snag...finding a rabbi. I am a Catholic and my fiance is Jewish. My uncle is a priest and also retired military chaplain...and he is more than willing to co-officiate a ceremony with a rabbi, but so far every rabbi we've spoken to has said "no" due to the following:
1. It's an interfaith marriage.
2. It's on a Saturday in April at 6pm (which is the latest time that our venue could give us for the ceremony as the reception is held at the same place right afterward).
3. The children won't be born Jewish (even though I agreed to have them converted and raised Jewish).
I understand that the time can be an issue for a rabbi as it's before sundown on the Sabbath, but my uncle is making a huge compromise for the ceremony by taking Jesus out of it except for a Trinitarian blessing at the end; this is out of respect for my fiance. It doesn't seem fair that a rabbi won't compromise by doing the ceremony an hour early when my uncle is willing to compromise something. It's not like God is going to strike us down for it. Also, every rabbi I've spoken to wants it to be a Jewish ceremony with my uncle barely saying anything. I don't think that's fair! My uncle respects the Jewish community and doesn't force religion down anyone's throat, which is refreshing to see in a priest. I feel very offended and wronged here.
Does anyone know a good reform rabbi in Connecticut who would be willing to co-officiate this ceremony? Or any advice in general?
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