So.... My FI's brother is getting married in January. His neighbor is hosting the co-ed shower. I just got an email requesting $40 PER PERSON to cover the cost. Yeah, you read that right. I was INCENSED to say the least. My FI contacted the host and he said it was really expensive to get beer/keg and food for 97 people. 97!!! That's more than I'm having at my own wedding!!! I'm trying to be a good FSIL, but I cannot I fork up $80 for myself and FI to feed other people (I know I'm not gonna eat THAT many sandwiches and chips), especially when I have my own wedding to pay for, and recently took a pay cut to be with FI. I'm at the point of making up an excuse not to make the 4hr round trip (oh, and gas!). Oh, and there was a follow up email asking why there hadn't been any responses....