STD help!

bridet0be15

I am ordering the STD for our Sept 2015 wedding.  I have a couple questions.

1. Our guest that are in relationships that are in-between the serious and casual stage.. do I include the name of the boyfriend/girlfriend on the save the date?  I would have thought that if they live together the name goes on it but if they don't it doesn't (for save the dates) but that is truly just a guess!

2.  Should I include & guest for the people getting plus ones?? We are giving everyone plus ones and have budgeted for this (I wouldn't want to go to a wedding without a plus one)  However, this is just the STD... do we include this?

Thanks in advance.. I want to make sure I am not rude!

ctr24

1. Personally when fiance and I were dating, it was nice when he received STDs and my name was included. I did feel slighted when I knew his friends knew my name and sent an invitation or STD to just him or wrote and guest. 

2. No. People don't need to know they'll have a plus one 9 months out. I would save that for the invitation.   

bridet0be15

Thank you!  

annakay511

I was always told that you shouldn't put the SO name on the STD/invite unless they would still be invited if they broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriend. If they would still be invited, then they should get their own STD/invite sent to their home, separate from their SO (of course, this only applies to the couples you're describing and not couples we are already living together or engaged).

bridet0be15

Thanks Anna.  That makes sense.