In laws? Feel free to vent.

Kayla8599

I need to know I'm not alone when it comes to the stress of planning a wedding with my in laws, as much as I love this family to death I'm trying not to pull my hair out...is passive agressiveness common days before the wedding? Please feel free to share, vent, rant, rave ect...because a little therapy would be beneficial as of now...

bethbloom

haha, yes, it is.
people who really don't matter to weddings (not the bride or the groom) still get themselves worked up.

my in laws hosted the rehearsal, in my parents backyard (they're from out of town), and that kept them busy thankfully.

You're almost there (less than a month, very exciting!) and that's when people get EXTRA crazy - I would suggest either having someone be the middle-man or smile and "ignore".

cdroses

There are advantages of being "old" and on our own.  Sadly, my MIL passed away almost 2 years ago. She was a wonderful woman, and I would have gotten along with her just fine.  FIL and Step-MIL live in AZ, then my parents are in NE...if they show, they show.  If they don't show, it doesn't affect the celebration(s) in any way.

mayflymanitou

I had the opposite problem- in laws who pretty much wanted nothing to do with us or our wedding.  My MIL didn't bother to attend our rehearsal dinner and I had to threaten to hit her over the head with my bouquet (seriously... it's on video) to get her to stop whining and be part of the big family photo.

So you're not alone in your in-law pain.  It's all part of the fun

yamahachica

It's easy for people to get worked up over something like a wedding. We as brides think this day is supposed to be about US and our LOVES but yet are constantly reminded that other people think they matter just as much  (if not more) and their opinions are the only ones that are correct. Try your best to just smile and let it all go in one ear and out the other. I realized in my case that maybe these people who are causing you so much trouble are only doing it because they want you to have a better wedding than they had and that they aren't trying to ruin your day. I know this was not what you wanted to hear and trust me I can rant and rave until next year, but if I just remember that these people are not out to get me, it helps me get past the frustration at the moment.
Good Luck & remember you will soon be on your honeymoon, far away from those annoying people!!!

sdrakkan

FIL is great but my MIL is trying to be TOO involved in the wedding and make it all about her. She is trying to get us to have a wedding in her church, use her wedding ring, and her house! I haven't broke the news to her that I want god no where near the ceremony, I won't wear gold, and her house is too small. It's still a little over a year away so I'm taking a little time to try to not piss her off in the process.

Her daughters from her first marriage banned her from their weddings because she was so controlling and they hated her that much. So my FI is the only chance she will get as long as I don't have to throw her out for fighting with my FIL. They got divorced about 6 years ago and she was so upset about all of it she cleansed the house when he moved out to rid it of the "bad memories." So she is allowed to attend, but my MOH will be on standby along with one of the groomsmen to escort her out if she can't behave and not make it all about her.