Planning a wedding brings out the real bitch in some people
One of my BMs (we'll call her Jessica) is also a BM in another wedding a month before mine. That bride (lets call her Leslie) was a mutual friend of me and Jessica in college, but me and Leslie kind of drifted apart over the years. I'm invited to her wedding and she is to mine, but we aren't BFFs anymore. Me and a handful of my BMs that could make it went to find bridesmaid dresses for them this weekend. I was talking to them to get an idea of what they liked/didn't like/would feel comfortable in. I knew a strapless dress is out of the question because several of my girls are very well blessed in the breast department, and strapless bras-no matter how fancy, just don't cut it for them. While discussing our options, Jessica tells me that she has to 'figure out a way' to wear the bm dress Leslie picked out for her wedding, because it's one-shoulder and not very supportive up top. Jessica goes on to tell me about their appointment to find bridesmaid dresses, and that at the end of that appointment, she(Jessica) was crying in the dressing room because her breasts are so large that she felt uncomfortable in almost all of the dresses Leslie picked out. It's important to note that Leslie is also big-chested, so she (should) understand what this is like. Leslie also said she does not want Jessica to wear a bra with clear straps, because you will still be able to see those. Jessica made a comment about how she had considered breast-reduction surgery, and perhaps she could have that done in January to have enough recovery time before Leslie's wedding. Leslie's response: "Well it's up to you, but you just do what you need to to fit in the dress."
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?
I almost lost my mind. The thought of Jessica crying in a dressing room during something that should be FUN broke my heart, and then I wanted to hunt Leslie down and punch her in the face. And maybe Leslie didn't realize how upset Jessica was, but please take your bridesmaids' opinions into consideration at least. No, you can't please everyone and yes it is your wedding, but you should at least want your girls to be comfortable. I was absolutely outraged, especially at the face that Leslie thinks it's no big deal for Jessica to have a major surgery with 6 weeks recovery time just to look good in her wedding.
I don't know, maybe I'm over-reacting. I'm just super close to Jessica and it really hurt me to know her feelings had been hurt like that, and Leslie doesn't seem to care. Bitches.
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