My Fiance and I have decided upon our parties - 6 groomsman and 6 bridesmaids! We were very excited and comfortable with our decisions. He has all of his closet friends and I have 3 close friends, his sister (whom I am close with) and my 2 sisters.
However, the drama has begun....
My fiance's family is extremely close (and controlling). He grew up with his female cousin and the family always made sure that they were close no matter what. She is very insecure and always get what she wants. My fiance did not even think to have her in the wedding because he does not care for her the way the family believes he does (she is family, not his best friend!). However, before he even proposed to me his aunt said that his cousin should be in my bridal party or she will cry and drink herself to sleep the night of our wedding because she feels so close to him.
Now we are concerned. His family will be extremely upset and will take it out on us for the rest of our lives (no joke, they were upset that we could't make it to this years Thanksgiving because for the 1st time we decided to go to my family's house). They are pressuring us to include her on my side. But even though I am friendly with her and comfortable its not what I envisioned. It would cost a little more money to have her, I think 6 is a great number and it just doesn't seem perfect now. I wanted a close knit of friend and family. Even though adding her is doing his family a favor and might make us closer. But I do not like being told what to do on my wedding day and I think it was rude of them to force this upon us. Especially since they didn't even offer to pay for anything (my fiance's mother passed away when he was younger and they treat him like a son).
Any advice?! Should I suck it up and include her .... or make a point.