IT IS NOT OK TO PLAN YOUR OWN DESTINATION BACHELORETTE PARTY.
It is especially not ok when most of your invitees have indicated they do not want to do a destination bach party, and when you insist on it anyway.
It is truly egregious to force people to decide in a matter of 30 minutes whether they will shell out half a grand for the honor of attending a party that will require airfare and a passport.
SO FRUSTRATING.
Sorry I'm shouting.