I am going to my future in-law's house for Christmas tomorrow, but I am not looking forward to seeing them. Yesterday I received news that a bridal salon that has supplied my family with wedding dresses for three generations had a cancellation for an appointment, and it was mine if I wanted it. Overjoyed, I called my mom, dad, and my FMIL to ask if they wanted to dress shop with me. Mom and Dad said yes, FMIL said that she'd see. A few hours later, I receive a long winded text explaining why she cannot attend the appointment, and the reason really got under my skin.
As you know, FI has a cousin who is a jackass (and that is putting it "nicely"). The cousin got married to his wife a year ago, and they decided that they want to have a "Real Second Wedding" in Peru. They sent out invitations for the PPD two weeks ago, and the "wedding" is to take place in early January. Her reason for not coming along? "I have to finish up some work before I go to the wedding in Peru, sorry there's nothing I can do"...Not even an "oh man I am sorry I won't be able to make it, I hope you find THE dress." I feel a bit hurt because asshole cousin's PPD is getting priority over wedding dress shopping with me. FI tried to reason with her stating that the appointment won't be that long, and that it would mean a lot to me if she could come along. She said that I was over reacting, and "this is the end of this conversation."
FI, Emmett and I are traveling a long way to see them, and I swear to put this shit aside as soon as I step in the doorway (I am well trained in courtesy, and kindness even when dealing with people I dislike). I do not want to harp on Christmas joy, but am I justified in feeling this way or am I being completely unreasonable here??