Luxury Weddings

what is your definition of a luxury wedding?

I've been on this forum for a few months now and reading everyone's posts about their luxury wedding. Some of you girls out there have knocked my socks off with amazing destination weddings or weddings at high end venues with no expense spared. But some girls though seem to think that just having an open bar and giving people a plated dinner is luxurious. I'm curious to know is that considered luxurious because of where your from? What is everyone's definition of a luxury wedding? My wedding, for my area is on the low end of luxury I'd say. Everyone's weddings around here, that I've been too, have included transportation, an open bar, huge cocktail/Vienniesse hours and plated dinners. I think my wedding is more on the luxury side because of the high end venue we picked and the extra amenities were providing for our family as well as guests but I wouldn't go out there and say my wedding is going to be leagues away from everyone else's I've been too. So where does your definition of a luxury wedding come from? Because I see a lot of people seem to be all over the board.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain
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    My definition of a luxury wedding is one where there is no concern about the budget.  I have never been to one of these.

    You are having a luxury wedding if you shop for wedding dresses without looking at the price tags before you try them on.
    You are having a luxury wedding if you don't care about the cost per person at your reception.
    You are having a luxury wedding if your "wedding vision" is more important than anything else.

    (I do have two nieces that will be having luxury weddings - unless they decide to elope.)

    P.S.  For an example of an ultimate luxury wedding, read Shopaholic Takes Manhattan by Sophie Kinsella.  Hilarious!
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  • My godfather had one. St. Patrick's cathedral, rainbow room and designer everything. It was 25 years ago and people Still Talk About it. I agree with you on cost not being an issue but I also think the quality of what you have is important. I also think location is important because there are very high end places and low end ones. I've seen people spend a lot of money and still get a very unimpressive result.
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  • Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 Cowtown
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    There was a really good post about this awhile back, but I can't find it. The only one I can find is:


    It's a combination of cost and going above and beyond to host your guests.


    CMGragain said:
    My definition of a luxury wedding is one where there is no concern about the budget.  I have never been to one of these.

    You are having a luxury wedding if you shop for wedding dresses without looking at the price tags before you try them on.
    You are having a luxury wedding if you don't care about the cost per person at your reception.
    You are having a luxury wedding if your "wedding vision" is more important than anything else.

    (I do have two nieces that will be having luxury weddings - unless they decide to elope.)

    P.S.  For an example of an ultimate luxury wedding, read Shopaholic Takes Manhattan by Sophie Kinsella.  Hilarious!
    I eloped for my second wedding and I still count it as luxury. Why? Because I put my wedding vision above all else and spared no expense to get what we wanted. While we did not have any guests, we splurged on ourselves. 

    My first wedding was a traditional luxury wedding. I was very fortunate to have an open ended budget. 

     







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  • dcbride86dcbride86 Washington, DC
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    CMGragain said:
    My definition of a luxury wedding is one where there is no concern about the budget.  I have never been to one of these.

    You are having a luxury wedding if you shop for wedding dresses without looking at the price tags before you try them on.
    You are having a luxury wedding if you don't care about the cost per person at your reception.
    You are having a luxury wedding if your "wedding vision" is more important than anything else.

    (I do have two nieces that will be having luxury weddings - unless they decide to elope.)

    P.S.  For an example of an ultimate luxury wedding, read Shopaholic Takes Manhattan by Sophie Kinsella.  Hilarious!


    Um, no.  I'm sorry, just no.  Having a dress made of diamonds doesn't make your wedding luxurious.  A luxury wedding is one where your guests get to enjoy high-end bar, beautiful accommodations, a delcious 5-star plated dinner, and don't have to worry about anything.  Need a blister band-aid?  Done.  Need more perfume?  Flip-flops?  New tights?  No worries.

     

    To me, luxury is much like obscenity: I know it when I see it.

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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's
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    Luxury means that no expense was spared.  Meaning that you have an open ended budget.  Size of the wedding does not matter.  If you have a DW in Italy and fly all 20 of your guests over for a week long extravaganza, that is luxury.  If you have a local wedding and invite 500 guests and serve lobster tail flown in that morning from Maine as just an appetizer, that is a luxury wedding.

    But like Addie said, some of the "luxury" weddings that people post about are just not what I consider luxurious by any means. 

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  • climbingwifeclimbingwife NYC 'burbs
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    Luxury means that no expense was spared.  Meaning that you have an open ended budget.  Size of the wedding does not matter.  If you have a DW in Italy and fly all 20 of your guests over for a week long extravaganza, that is luxury.  If you have a local wedding and invite 500 guests and serve lobster tail flown in that morning from Maine as just an appetizer, that is a luxury wedding.

    But like Addie said, some of the "luxury" weddings that people post about are just not what I consider luxurious by any means. 
    Totally agree with this. Luxury to me means that there is no budget, and no expense is spared. But also that the guests are taken care of 100%. A luxurious wedding would not having guests sitting outside in cold temperatures, or experiencing an hour gap because pictures are being taken. 

  • CMGragainCMGragain
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    dcbride86 said:
    CMGragain said:
    My definition of a luxury wedding is one where there is no concern about the budget.  I have never been to one of these.

    You are having a luxury wedding if you shop for wedding dresses without looking at the price tags before you try them on.
    You are having a luxury wedding if you don't care about the cost per person at your reception.
    You are having a luxury wedding if your "wedding vision" is more important than anything else.

    (I do have two nieces that will be having luxury weddings - unless they decide to elope.)

    P.S.  For an example of an ultimate luxury wedding, read Shopaholic Takes Manhattan by Sophie Kinsella.  Hilarious!


    Um, no.  I'm sorry, just no.  Having a dress made of diamonds doesn't make your wedding luxurious.  A luxury wedding is one where your guests get to enjoy high-end bar, beautiful accommodations, a delcious 5-star plated dinner, and don't have to worry about anything.  Need a blister band-aid?  Done.  Need more perfume?  Flip-flops?  New tights?  No worries.

     

    To me, luxury is much like obscenity: I know it when I see it.

    I think you are misinterpreting my post.  The idea I was trying to convey is, as other posters have said, budget is not a concern, and that everything is arranged without regard to cost and with no expense spared..  Personally, I could never do that, no matter how much money I had!  I don't quite understand what you mean by your final sentence.
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  • "Luxury" anything is in the eye of the beholder.  Some people make weddings and want the appearance of luxury so they hire a live band, use a luxury venue, serve prime rib/lobster, hire bathroom attendants, and only serve top shelf liquor, but then skimp in obvious areas like flowers and invitations.  Personally, I kind of like it that way because I prefer to spend the lion's share of money on items that will enhance the guests' enjoyment and spend less on items that hit the trash.  People remember how they were treated, if they had fun, and the quality of the food.  They seldom remember centerpieces or bouquets.
  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 Exit 21 (Jersey!)
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    dcbride86 said:
    CMGragain said:
    My definition of a luxury wedding is one where there is no concern about the budget.  I have never been to one of these.

    You are having a luxury wedding if you shop for wedding dresses without looking at the price tags before you try them on.
    You are having a luxury wedding if you don't care about the cost per person at your reception.
    You are having a luxury wedding if your "wedding vision" is more important than anything else.

    (I do have two nieces that will be having luxury weddings - unless they decide to elope.)

    P.S.  For an example of an ultimate luxury wedding, read Shopaholic Takes Manhattan by Sophie Kinsella.  Hilarious!


    Um, no.  I'm sorry, just no.  Having a dress made of diamonds doesn't make your wedding luxurious.  A luxury wedding is one where your guests get to enjoy high-end bar, beautiful accommodations, a delcious 5-star plated dinner, and don't have to worry about anything.  Need a blister band-aid?  Done.  Need more perfume?  Flip-flops?  New tights?  No worries.

     

    To me, luxury is much like obscenity: I know it when I see it.

    For me, an amenity basket and a bucket of ($1 Old Navy?) flip flops doesn't scream luxury.  I made sure all of my guests were taken care of and our wedding was held in a beautiful venue with top shelf liquor, a multi course plated meal, etc.  That's the norm of most of the weddings I've attended in my area.  I still don't view it as luxury....just a really nice wedding.

    I think a luxury wedding is one where money is no object and the wedding cost well into six figures.  To me, luxury is what most people cannot afford.  Over the top.  When I hear the word luxury, I think of those multi million dollar dream yacht shows on the wealth channel.   I've yet to attend what I would call a luxury wedding, but I have attended many very nice weddings!  
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  • dcbride86dcbride86 Washington, DC
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    CMGragain said:
    dcbride86 said:
    CMGragain said:
    My definition of a luxury wedding is one where there is no concern about the budget.  I have never been to one of these.

    You are having a luxury wedding if you shop for wedding dresses without looking at the price tags before you try them on.
    You are having a luxury wedding if you don't care about the cost per person at your reception.
    You are having a luxury wedding if your "wedding vision" is more important than anything else.

    (I do have two nieces that will be having luxury weddings - unless they decide to elope.)

    P.S.  For an example of an ultimate luxury wedding, read Shopaholic Takes Manhattan by Sophie Kinsella.  Hilarious!


    Um, no.  I'm sorry, just no.  Having a dress made of diamonds doesn't make your wedding luxurious.  A luxury wedding is one where your guests get to enjoy high-end bar, beautiful accommodations, a delcious 5-star plated dinner, and don't have to worry about anything.  Need a blister band-aid?  Done.  Need more perfume?  Flip-flops?  New tights?  No worries.

     

    To me, luxury is much like obscenity: I know it when I see it.

    I think you are misinterpreting my post.  The idea I was trying to convey is, as other posters have said, budget is not a concern, and that everything is arranged without regard to cost and with no expense spared..  Personally, I could never do that, no matter how much money I had!  I don't quite understand what you mean by your final sentence.


    @CMGragain - sorry, the last sentence was a bit of super nerdy lawyer humor.  There was a U.S. Supreme Court case about obscenity and pornography.  Justice Potter Stewart famously said about obscenity: "I know it when I see it."

    Since then, it has become a phrase to explain something that has no exact criteria, but can be noticed when seen.

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  • "Luxury" anything is in the eye of the beholder.  Some people make weddings and want the appearance of luxury so they hire a live band, use a luxury venue, serve prime rib/lobster, hire bathroom attendants, and only serve top shelf liquor, but then skimp in obvious areas like flowers and invitations.  Personally, I kind of like it that way because I prefer to spend the lion's share of money on items that will enhance the guests' enjoyment and spend less on items that hit the trash.  People remember how they were treated, if they had fun, and the quality of the food.  They seldom remember centerpieces or bouquets.
    Disagree.  A true "luxury wedding" doesn't skimp on anything, because there is no need to skimp, and all details are treated with equal importance.

    Further, invitations and flowers are some of the most important details in a luxury wedding, because they contribute to the feel of the event.  An invitation is the first clue your guests have as to the level of event they're attending - a luxury wedding will have some hella amazing invitations; no DIY here, we're talking Lehr & Black.  And the florals live on forever in photos, so you better believe the floral budget for a luxury wedding will be huge.
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  • ladywellladywell
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    Further, invitations and flowers are some of the most important details in a luxury wedding, because they contribute to the feel of the event.  An invitation is the first clue your guests have as to the level of event they're attending - a luxury wedding will have some hella amazing invitations; no DIY here, we're talking Lehr & Black.  And the florals live on forever in photos, so you better believe the floral budget for a luxury wedding will be huge.

    100 times THIS.

    Edit: To add to this thread/my post, I think that luxury weddings have everything to do with the look, feel, and experience of the event as "nothing compromised" and not just how much you spent. For example, although my fiance and spent a pretty penny over average, I *did not* have a luxury wedding... as I had to stick to a budget and compromised lots of my [bridezilla] wishlist (LOL). 
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  • When I think of luxury weddings I think of celebrity weddings where everything is top notch. The platinum weddings show that use to come on tv. So over top, abundance of everything, only the best of everything is luxury. I would not consider my wedding to luxury at all and I am having open bar and multiple food options but budget is quite important to me. lol. I have not been to luxury wedding but have been to nice ones. I think there's a difference. 
  • Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 Cowtown
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    Zombie. Closing. Feel free to start a new conversation!

     







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