Hi, I don't know where to begin but kind of just need some insight:
I've been engaged since December 24, 2012 and our wedding date is November 7, 2015. I will be turning 28 this September. My mother, who is 49 and has never been married, decided to tell me on New Year's Day that after being engaged for 9 years, they realized they were "not getting any younger" and are going to be married THIS June; 5 months before my wedding. This was not really a surprise, as my mother is infamous for doing things like this to me through my life. I told her flat out that I am on a strict budget and cannot afford to throw her a bridal shower or pay for a bridesmaid dress. She told me that she would pay for everything and all she wants is me and my sister by her side.
Now I'm finding out she's booking my photographer that I've had booked for 6 months now (mom was supposed to pay for my photographer for my wedding), and she wanted to book my hair and makeup people. I'm about an hour away from my mom and all of my services are local to me. I've done my research for 2 whole years and now I feel she's just swooping in, taking everything and will get to have all the enjoyment, while I'm stressing. I know I should be happy for her; everyone has a right to be married and book whomever they want. But this just doesn't seem right. Why now, all of a sudden? I don't know what to say to her at this point. I feel like now, she's trying to compete with me and I know if I say something, anything to her, she'll turn it around and make me feel guilty. She's always been like that and has an "I don't care" attitude for people showing or not showing to her wedding. Very poor if you ask me.
My grandmother (her mother) said something to her about postponing since not only does she have her daughter's wedding this year, but her younger daughter is graduating high school, and was looking forward to a graduation party. My mom got a little upset with my grandmother, but is still going to continue no matter what. My best friends and bridal party are completely livid... nobody sees any good coming from this.
Has this happened to ANYONE? I've heard of jealous friends and maybe siblings or cousins doing something like this, but not one's own mother.