So our wedding is in July 2015. After the excitement of the engagement began to settle down, my mom and my fiance's parents sat down with us and offered to pay for the wedding. They agreed to a budget and that each side would pay half. We have already signed contracts and put down payments/deposits on most of our vendors. This money has come from my mom. My fiance's parents have not helped to pay anything so far.
Recently, my future in laws decided to start making comments about how "we are forgetting who is paying for the wedding" when they don't agree with our decisions. A few days ago, my future mother in law texted my fiance and said that they don't agree with some of the life choices we have made (financed a new vehicle and moving back to my mom's to save money to get a house). And because they don't like what we are doing they are withdrawing their offer to pay half of the wedding and will now only cover half of the reception cost and the DJ...this would be about 65% of what was originally agreed upon.
I'm freaking out! My fiance wants to sit down and talk to them which we can't do for a few days. With trying to save for our own home, we can't afford to cover what we are already paying for and the other 35% of their part. My fiance's mother has been controlling from the start, but I think it is crossing the line when threatening to not cover the agreed costs. My initial reaction is to just cancel the wedding and have them cover the losses, but then that's a lose-lose situation. I am starting to try and find ways to cut back on cuts if things don't work out. I'm just not sure what to do and my fiance is hurt by this whole situation.
Has anyone else been through a similar situation? Any opinions?