I am back to complain about another party poorly hosted by my SIL & BIL. Yes I have complained many times, I keep going so it is my own fault. So this is more of a lesson to lurkers that YOUR FAMILY DOES MIND even though "they love you".
So it really feels like everything that happens in their life MUST be celebrated by all (and hosted by all as well). So this weekend is the party and it is a theme party. Which I am not necessarily against... but REALLY didn't feel like getting a costume. I ended up spending $50-$60 on mostly accessories (well and my dress) for H and I. So not terrible... but we are trying really hard to save money and pay down debt that I rather not spend it on something for someone else's party.
But once I got it all together we look pretty awesome so I was getting pretty excited. I do love H's family and we always all have fun together. Today I get a text from my BIL to bring a veggie platter.... ughhhhhh. Since H has work that day we have to leave right as he get's home so I asked BIL if we should get dinner on the way or if there will be enough food for a dinner. He said to get food on the way, there will only be a few snacks....ughhh
Then I get an email reminder that the big party is this weekend! There will be "bubbly" but feel free to BYOB... ughhh
I mentioned this to H and his response was if we are supposed to bring a gift too? I said Hell No. I will bring a card.
This past summer was our first summer in our new house and I threw H a bday party (I talked about it before on here). I hosted dinner for everyone (Grilled steak and chicken with pasta alfredo) and beer and wine (along with soda, juice and water) and of course ice cream cake. AND BIL and SIL didn't even bring a card for H. We weren't looking for gifts at all (and were surprised that people did bring gifts) but they couldn't even show up with a card? They constantly ask us to bring food and booze to every party of theirs (they have asked for gifts too). I was hoping that by providing good food and drink to all of our guests... I could show how easy (and polite) it is to properly host your guests....
I will say again I don't mind potlucks/BYOB in general. I just can't stand it when it is a "gift giving" event or a party in someone's honor. New Year's eve party - Yes- what can I bring? Your birthday party I need to buy a costume for and bring food and booze? SO RUDE!!!