After dating for about 12 years my loving partner popped the question. I was extremely shocked considering I figured we'd just be that couple who never got married. I was really okay with us not getting married, but not opposed to it either. So here I am with a beautiful engagement ring and I'm just not into planning this wedding.
Don't get me wrong! I am very excited to be married, but the whole wedding thing is making me feel quite "blah".
My fiancé had his hopes set on a destination wedding but once I started receiving quotes from wedding planners I realized it was an unlikely option for us. The idea of a destination wedding actually excited me, but it just didn't sit right with me to spend a lot of money on only a small portion of our friends and family members to join us on our special day. Not to mention the money our loved ones would have to spend to get there.
Now we're looking at a wedding and reception at home in Minnesota. We won't get married until next summer due to his law school schedule so we have a lot of time, but I've done an obscene amount of research and it all overwhelms me. I know once we set a few things in motion it'll get better, but at this point there's too many options!
We're working with a fairly small budget so I initially thought a Sunday brunch reception was a good idea. Venues are usually cheaper and who doesn't love brunch food?!? Alas, my fiancé's mother doesn't love to idea so we're now looking at a Friday evening wedding. (She is giving us money for the wedding so we want to be respectful of her wishes.) As I scour the internet and go through proposals from venues and vendors I just feel defeated. How is this stuff so expensive???
I know we can go on the cheap and do something at a VFW or community center. Those options are great! But they just aren't us. I feel as though if we're going to spend all this money on a single day we might as well do it our way and make sure it's something we like. We've also discussed just going to the courthouse, but I figure that if I'm going to go through with all the traditions that I might as well spend that day and celebrate with our closest friends and family members. Of course I should mention that my extended family is giant and it has been made clear by my parents that all of them will be invited. There's too much to consider for something that I'm not super thrilled about!
Anyone else feel this way? Please tell me it gets better and things become clearer. I hate coming off as an ungrateful brat, but I would much rather spend all that money on remodeling my kitchen...