Lady I worked with at my previous job knows both my fiancee and I. When we got engaged she basically proclaimed herself a bridesmaid and told everyone we work with in the store as much. Now, I'm 80 days out and she's texting me asking about dresses and shoes and everything. I don't want her as a bridesmaid, when she labeled herself my fiancee told her it was cool over my head and now I don't know how to politely let her down.
I quit the job in November and I didn't get a phone call, text, nothing until about a week ago. Originally we had a bunch of people from the store my coworkers that my fiancee knew as well on the invite list, but we have had to majorly cut the list down due to space limitations.
To be truthful I don't do conflict very well, and i juat don't know what to say to her. First time talking to her in 2.5 months she asked "oh, is the wedding still on? I've been losing weight to look good in my dress! " I mentioned to her that the wedding was still on but we had to reduce the size significantly because of space and cost. She didn't seem to get what I was hinting at...
I don't want to seem hateful but Im not close to her like I am with my other girls, and she's a heavy partier where the rest of us are more mellow.
Help without telling me what a terrible person I am for having no spine?