There have been a few-- or maybe more than a few-- threads since I've been here about people needing help with leaving a relationship. Whether it's because they just know they're with the wrong person, neither of them are happy, there's abuse happening, whatever the reason, they come here seeking help/advice and we always rally and urge them to do what's in their best interest. That's one of the things I love most about this community, is that the knotties clearly care about others' well-being and helping people to do what's best for them, and are so caring and supportive, whether they're regs or total strangers. And despite how much SS love to say we're so mean.
So these people seeking help usually stick around for a few days and then disappear. I don't blame them; it's probably pretty tough hanging out on a site/forum that's so wedding-oriented if they've decided to end their relationship and cancel their wedding. But every so often these threads cross my mind and I wonder what happened. Did they leave? Did they get out safely? Are they ok? Are they happy? Have they moved on? What happened?
One of the ladies who posted about being abused disappeared, and I messaged her a few days later just to see if she was alright and if I could help in any way, with advice because I got out of an abusive relationship and ended up ok, or with resources, or with a sympathetic ear, or whatever. But I never heard back from her.
Maybe it's selfish of me to want some kind of update or something for my own peace of mind. Maybe I'm thinking too much (like I always do).
But don't you ever wonder?