My friend chose two bridesmaids (myself, and another girl) and decided not to have a Matron of Honor, but instead to split the duties between us. This means we have to work together on things and sometimes there is not a final decision maker so to speak. She has a strong personality, so most of the time I am willing to back down. I'd rather not have drama and stress out the bride and family...especially on things that don't really matter. I have been trying to just keep peace and not push any issues, however, I am extraordinarily disappointed and tired of the way she talks about people. She talks bad about the groom, groom's parents/family, bride's parents (sooo mean about them), and on occasion the bride. I don't think she would say these things to their faces. I have tried to diffuse these rude remarks without causing drama. I either gently stand up for the people or I change the subject, but I feel horrible. I want to tell her how inappropriate it is to talk about people like that. I feel like she can't be trusted and it worries me because she is planning one of the parties. I'm afraid she will make the bride feel awkward or do something she doesn't want to do (or talk bad about her when she doesn't do it). It also concerns me because she is part of the groom's family (married in) and I'm sad that the bride might have to deal with this for the rest of her life. I would usually get advice from one of my friends on this but she is heavily involved in the wedding, and like I said I don't want to start drama. What do I do?