My Matron of Honor refuses to get a babysitter for the wedding

plainjane0415

Kanye for the win!

maeday2

chelsea1013 said:

I will never in my life understand why people have to be so hurtful and disrespectful to people that are putting themselves out there and asking for advice.

She came here looking for advice and if she wants to be selfish on her wedding day...SHE CAN BE!

Your wedding day is supposed to be special and magical and everything you want it to be. You're allowed to be a tad bit selfish. 

I agree with one of the commenters that maybe she can suggest bringing someone along to watch the baby that the parents are comfortable with. I think that would be the best option for this whole situation.

I also understand where she is coming from though. I had to make the decision to replace my maid of honor because she was having a baby and couldn't devote as much time to me as I would have liked and she was always putting the guilt trip on me for having my wedding the same year she was having a baby. And every single day I am more and more confident with my decision.

Go ahead and call me what you want but no one fully knows the situation. Nor do you fully understand what this girl is going through either.

No one has any right to judge her and if you didn't have any solid advice for her you shouldn't have even commented on this post at all. Keep your negative, rude and hurtful comments to yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if it was you in her place.

On being selfish on your day. I actually agree. As in, "I want BLUE table runners." Or, "I only want Roses!" Maybe, "The band will NOT play the wobble because I don't like it." 

It's not a day to let your selfishness impact friendships. 

I wouldn't have to fully know the situation to know that replacing your MOH is just rude. 

flantastic

pinkrevenge said:

Also, show of hands: Who wants to take advice on how to treat people from someone who is loosing friends and family members for their poor treatment of them?

Or is the hottest new wedding trend "How many people can we hurt with this hot mess?"

If these people can't handle whatever I need to do to make the magic inherent in a wedding, they need to get out of my life anyway.

maeday2

pinkrevenge said:

chelsea1013 said:

I will never in my life understand why people have to be so hurtful and disrespectful to people that are putting themselves out there and asking for advice.

She came here looking for advice and if she wants to be selfish on her wedding day...SHE CAN BE!

And here's where I stopped reading, because I want to know WHY you would pay so much money to "host" people and "thank" them by acting like a napless toddler at their birthday party.

Knock it off.

Agree. 

The bolded is also hilarious coming from someone who canned their pregnant MOH. 

NowIAmSyp

chelsea1013 said:

I will never in my life understand why people have to be so hurtful and disrespectful to people that are putting themselves out there and asking for advice.

She came here looking for advice and if she wants to be selfish on her wedding day...SHE CAN BE!

Your wedding day is supposed to be special and magical and everything you want it to be. You're allowed to be a tad bit selfish.

I agree with one of the commenters that maybe she can suggest bringing someone along to watch the baby that the parents are comfortable with. I think that would be the best option for this whole situation.

I also understand where she is coming from though. I had to make the decision to replace my maid of honor because she was having a baby and couldn't devote as much time to me as I would have liked and she was always putting the guilt trip on me for having my wedding the same year she was having a baby. And every single day I am more and more confident with my decision.

Go ahead and call me what you want but no one fully knows the situation. Nor do you fully understand what this girl is going through either.

No one has any right to judge her and if you didn't have any solid advice for her you shouldn't have even commented on this post at all. Keep your negative, rude and hurtful comments to yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if it was you in her place.

mikenberger

plainjane0415 said:

I'm allowed to be selfish, because....magic.

That's how I feel when someone refers to having a magical wedding.

I'll never understand why people think their one day trumps, what was probably, a long standing friendship. And that these people that you treat like shit will be your friend after your wedding. 

Maggie0829

climbingsingle

chelsea1013 said:

I will never in my life understand why people have to be so hurtful and disrespectful to people that are putting themselves out there and asking for advice.

She came here looking for advice and if she wants to be selfish on her wedding day...SHE CAN BE!

Your wedding day is supposed to be special and magical and everything you want it to be. You're allowed to be a tad bit selfish.

I agree with one of the commenters that maybe she can suggest bringing someone along to watch the baby that the parents are comfortable with. I think that would be the best option for this whole situation.

I also understand where she is coming from though. I had to make the decision to replace my maid of honor because she was having a baby and couldn't devote as much time to me as I would have liked and she was always putting the guilt trip on me for having my wedding the same year she was having a baby. And every single day I am more and more confident with my decision.

Go ahead and call me what you want but no one fully knows the situation. Nor do you fully understand what this girl is going through either.

No one has any right to judge her and if you didn't have any solid advice for her you shouldn't have even commented on this post at all. Keep your negative, rude and hurtful comments to yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if it was you in her place.

Your post tells me all I need to know about you. And honey, it ain't good. 

PrettyGirlLost

chelsea1013 said:

I will never in my life understand why people have to be so hurtful and disrespectful to people that are putting themselves out there and asking for advice.

She came here looking for advice and if she wants to be selfish on her wedding day...SHE CAN BE!  Sure she can!  You can all be selfish on your Most Beautiful, Perfect, Special Days® and then you all can suffer the consequences of being selfish!  Again, people will care about and REMEMBER how they were treated on your wedding day, and if you treated them like crap your relationship with them can be forever damaged.

Your wedding day is supposed to be special and magical and everything you want it to be. You're allowed to be a tad bit selfish.  Nope, no one is allowed to be selfish. Ever.  Especially not grown ass adults who should fucking know better.  There's no federal law or Geneva Convention statute that "allows" you to be selfish.  You, as an adult, can CHOOSE to act selfishly, but that doesn't mean everyone around you HAS to accept your behavior and give you a pass.  Even if it's your Most Beautiful, Perfect, Special Day®

I agree with one of the commenters that maybe she can suggest bringing someone along to watch the baby that the parents are comfortable with. I think that would be the best option for this whole situation.

I also understand where she is coming from though. I had to make the decision to replace my maid of honor because she was having a baby and couldn't devote as much time to me as I would have liked and she was always putting the guilt trip on me for having my wedding the same year she was having a baby. And every single day I am more and more confident with my decision.  Wow, that's shitty.  I hope you are not serious.  You kicked a friend out of a ceremonial role of honor that is supposed to honor HER, not you, because she wasn't doing enough shit for you because she IS PREGNANT!?  Ouch.  That is especially shitty since A. your bridal party isn't supposed to do anything for you other than show up on the day of your ceremony, on time, in the required attire, and hold flowers and walk down an aisle and B. no one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are and C. a pregnancy trumps doing bridal DIY crap and dress shopping trips.

Go ahead and call me what you want but no one fully knows the situation. Nor do you fully understand what this girl is going through either.  Oh please, your situation is not unique.  You bought into the bullshit the wedding industry feeds you about how your bridal party are supposed to fawn all over you and squee over every aspect of your wedding for the duration of your engagement, and be at your back and call to help you do shit that only you and your FI should be doing.  How dare anyone else have a life and be concerned about more significant things, like gestating a child, while you're engaged!

No one has any right to judge her and if you didn't have any solid advice for her you shouldn't have even commented on this post at all. Keep your negative, rude and hurtful comments to yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if it was you in her place.  Actually, we all have a right to our opinions and our judgements.  Brides to be are not a protected class.  Your actions have consequences, and you will be judged for them.

Maggie0829

I think my wedding day was the least selfish day I have ever had.  I was too worried about everyone else and making sure that all our guests had a good time.  I mean the entire planning process was thinking about others and what would make them happy.

PrettyGirlLost

Maggie0829 said:

I think my wedding day was the least selfish day I have ever had.  I was too worried about everyone else and making sure that all our guests had a good time.  I mean the entire planning process was thinking about others and what would make them happy.

Yep, me too!

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annathy03

chelsea1013 said:

I will never in my life understand why people have to be so hurtful and disrespectful to people that are putting themselves out there and asking for advice.

She came here looking for advice and if she wants to be selfish on her wedding day...SHE CAN BE!

Your wedding day is supposed to be special and magical and everything you want it to be. You're allowed to be a tad bit selfish.

I agree with one of the commenters that maybe she can suggest bringing someone along to watch the baby that the parents are comfortable with. I think that would be the best option for this whole situation.

I also understand where she is coming from though. I had to make the decision to replace my maid of honor because she was having a baby and couldn't devote as much time to me as I would have liked and she was always putting the guilt trip on me for having my wedding the same year she was having a baby. And every single day I am more and more confident with my decision.

Go ahead and call me what you want but no one fully knows the situation. Nor do you fully understand what this girl is going through either.

No one has any right to judge her and if you didn't have any solid advice for her you shouldn't have even commented on this post at all. Keep your negative, rude and hurtful comments to yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if it was you in her place.

1) On things that don't impact the way you treat your guests, absolutely.  You want candelabra centerpieces?  GO FOR IT!  Cupcake tower?  ROCK ON.  Treat your nearest and dearest like wedding slaves?  HELL NO.  I mean, you CAN do a lot of shitty things, but don't be surprised when people are offended and look at you in a new bridezilla light.

2) You probably won't have to worry about those guilt trips anymore, because I doubt she'll be speaking to you after minimizing your relationship by boiling it down to how much time she could devote to you while simultaneously growing a tiny human.

arrrghmatey

chelsea1013 said:

I will never in my life understand why people have to be so hurtful and disrespectful to people that are putting themselves out there and asking for advice.

She came here looking for advice and if she wants to be selfish on her wedding day...SHE CAN BE!

Your wedding day is supposed to be special and magical and everything you want it to be. You're allowed to be a tad bit selfish.

I agree with one of the commenters that maybe she can suggest bringing someone along to watch the baby that the parents are comfortable with. I think that would be the best option for this whole situation.

I also understand where she is coming from though. I had to make the decision to replace my maid of honor because she was having a baby and couldn't devote as much time to me as I would have liked and she was always putting the guilt trip on me for having my wedding the same year she was having a baby. And every single day I am more and more confident with my decision.

Go ahead and call me what you want but no one fully knows the situation. Nor do you fully understand what this girl is going through either.

No one has any right to judge her and if you didn't have any solid advice for her you shouldn't have even commented on this post at all. Keep your negative, rude and hurtful comments to yourself. I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it if it was you in her place.

Boy, was I late to the party on this since it blew up. I'm just getting to the last page and am already on my second cup of coffee.

And I wanna be one of @PrettyGirlLost 's flying bitch monkeys.

ashley8918

arrrghmatey said:

Boy, was I late to the party on this since it blew up. I'm just getting to the last page and am already on my second cup of coffee.

And I wanna be one of @PrettyGirlLost 's flying bitch monkeys.

(P.S. THIS IS PROBABLY SARCASM, for those of you big, important people who don't have time to analyze sarcasm)

thespeshulestsnowflake

ashley8918 said:

arrrghmatey said:

Boy, was I late to the party on this since it blew up. I'm just getting to the last page and am already on my second cup of coffee.

And I wanna be one of @PrettyGirlLost 's flying bitch monkeys.

(P.S. THIS IS PROBABLY SARCASM, for those of you big, important people who don't have time to analyze sarcasm)

I totally missed the sarcasm...

ashley8918

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

ashley8918 said:

arrrghmatey said:

Boy, was I late to the party on this since it blew up. I'm just getting to the last page and am already on my second cup of coffee.

And I wanna be one of @PrettyGirlLost 's flying bitch monkeys.

(P.S. THIS IS PROBABLY SARCASM, for those of you big, important people who don't have time to analyze sarcasm)

I totally missed the sarcasm...

Yes, it's REALLY REALLY hard to figure out, apparently. Just ask our mods.

PrettyGirlLost

First one of you to bring me ruby slippers and a cosmo gets to wear the red fez and the vest. . . GO!

ashley8918

PrettyGirlLost said:

First one of you to bring me ruby slippers and a cosmo gets to wear the red fez and the vest. . . GO!

GIVE ME THE VEST!

PrettyGirlLost

ashley8918 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

First one of you to bring me ruby slippers and a cosmo gets to wear the red fez and the vest. . . GO!

GIVE ME THE VEST!

ashley8918

PrettyGirlLost said:

ashley8918 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

First one of you to bring me ruby slippers and a cosmo gets to wear the red fez and the vest. . . GO!

GIVE ME THE VEST!

[Deleted User]

PrettyGirlLost

pinkrevenge said:

This is discrimination against the alternative beauty parrot lifestyle.

You guys are mean.

I'm the wicked fucking witch, what did you expect?!

I'm not gonna go all Glinda on yo ass!

[Deleted User]

PrettyGirlLost

pinkrevenge said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkrevenge said:

This is discrimination against the alternative beauty parrot lifestyle.

You guys are mean.

I'm the wicked fucking witch, what did you expect?!

I'm not gonna go all Glinda on yo ass!

I recant my steam-powered casserole. Alternative power-sourced food containers are only for nice people who support me.

It's not my fault I'm this way, though!  How about some compassion for the green lady.  Anyone?  Anyone?

arrrghmatey

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkrevenge said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkrevenge said:

This is discrimination against the alternative beauty parrot lifestyle.

You guys are mean.

I'm the wicked fucking witch, what did you expect?!

I'm not gonna go all Glinda on yo ass!

I recant my steam-powered casserole. Alternative power-sourced food containers are only for nice people who support me.

It's not my fault I'm this way, though!  How about some compassion for the green lady.  Anyone?  Anyone?

Get these two a seat on Oprah.

[Deleted User]

VulgarGirl

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkrevenge said:

I resent being called someone's flying monkey.

I am a beautiful primate-shaped parrot.

And I am not a Flying Monkey either, I AM GODDAMNED WILTING DELICATE FUCKING FLOWER!

You shush, and bring me those goddamned ruby slippers!

I'm wearing the ruby slippers. They go with my outfit.

VulgarGirl

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkrevenge said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkrevenge said:

This is discrimination against the alternative beauty parrot lifestyle.

You guys are mean.

I'm the wicked fucking witch, what did you expect?!

I'm not gonna go all Glinda on yo ass!

I recant my steam-powered casserole. Alternative power-sourced food containers are only for nice people who support me.

It's not my fault I'm this way, though!  How about some compassion for the green lady.  Anyone?  Anyone?

PrettyGirlLost

MagicInk said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkrevenge said:

I resent being called someone's flying monkey.

I am a beautiful primate-shaped parrot.

And I am not a Flying Monkey either, I AM GODDAMNED WILTING DELICATE FUCKING FLOWER!

You shush, and bring me those goddamned ruby slippers!

I'm wearing the ruby slippers. They go with my outfit.

You were wearing them. . . Ashley gave them to me along with a cosmo earlier.  I guess you'll need a new outfit now!