Dear Prudie,
I’m married to a wonderful, beautiful, smart, funny woman. The only issue is that she doesn’t seem to know that she is all of those things, and so much more. I try to go out of my way to make her feel special, to compliment her without being phony, and convey my feelings about how perfect she is for me. But she shrugs it off, or gives a perfunctory “thanks.” She’ll say things like “I don’t know why you love me,” or “What do you even see in me?” Apparently, I don’t have the right answers, because no matter my attempt at an honest or heartfelt response, she keeps on asking some variation of those questions. The problem is after years of her asking me why I married her, I find that I’m asking myself asking the same question. This isn’t something worth ending a marriage over, but I either need to get a better answer or find a way for her to stop asking the question.
—Guy Without All the Answers