FI and I do not have any young children in our family (at least none close enough that we would include them in the wedding). I have nannied for two little boys for the past 3 years. I was with the oldest, 3yrs old, since he was an infant. I have been very close with this family, they are like my own. I want to have them be ring bearers in our ceremony. The younger one won't even be two by the time the wedding rolls around so we aren't counting on him doing anything, he's just "included" because his brother is. The older one will be almost 4 at the time of the wedding. FI is ok with them being ring bearers since we have no family to take on that role. However, the logistics of things are proving to be problematic. Our ceremony is at 9:30am and is in a church. I cannot imagine those two sitting though the whole thing. So would it be odd to have them just walk down the aisle and then leave the church? Should I find something for them to do? Additionally, our rehearsal dinner was extremely difficult to book, due to the large size of the party and it being peak tourist season. We were only able to get something at 8:00pm. That is past their bed time. I don't feel right asking to include these boys in the wedding and then not having at least their parents come to the rehearsal dinner. I was thinking of either hiring a sitter for the night or sending food to their hotel for them. Finally, I am not sure what they would carry down the aisle. I am not a huge fan of the pillow or signs and obviously they would not carry the real rings. I saw an amazing rope basket on Etsy (the wedding is nautical themed) that I would love to have them carry but I am not sure what to put in it. Would that be too much of a flower girl type roll...we aren't having a flower girl. My florist suggested a rope with flower garland but that would require the definite participation of the younger one which we cannot count on due to his age. As you can tell I am all over the place with this. I can totally not have them be in the wedding party if it is too complicated (I haven't mentioned this to his parents yet) but I do think it would be adorable and special to have them participate. Any help is much appreciated.