I know this has been asked many many times.. just want to see if I can get a take for my specific situation. It has been a LONG time since we had a family wedding, the cousin that is closest in age to me is almost 10yrs older. From what I can remember we never had assigned seating charts at a reception and all of the weddings I have been to in FIs family have been open seating as well. With that being said we have a LOT of drama on my side that will be coming to this event.. I have a cousin that might not show because his wife hates his dad so if I assign seating they won't be together that's for sure, I also have three cousins (all brothers) who's wives do not get along but if I don't put them together two of them will know the other one already told me "do not put me with my sister in laws". So.. do I attempt assigned placement to avoid any drama parties together, or do I stay out of it and let them fend for themselves? Basically, most of the drama is within family units so when I start splitting them up it's going to be obvious. I'm either in the middle of it and potentially piss some people off, or I stay out of it and potentially cause some drama?
Yep, I know, sounds like a lot of high school drama.. trust me when I tell you that it gets to that point sometimes, we even had my aunts on mass email chains to the entire family one year talking about how "life is too short to be uncomfortable" so they would not to go Thanksgiving and be around "that other sister".
Another note: Mine will be the first wedding since my grandma passed, she was the glue so no other cousin had to deal with the oh so fun family drama that has surfaced in the passed couple of years.