So my Fiance' & will be paying for our wedding primarily on our own. My parents are not in any situation to contribute a sizable amount. His mom & sister however have generously offered to give us 5k each which would be a huge help as we would like to save to buy property in the next couple years. he has just recently become adament that we don't accept their financial help. He feels we should just split the cost, I on the other hand feel if they want to contribute let them. We will do something thoughtful to honor them the day of and thank them for their contribution but any help is great especially if it is unsolicited as I know this way they don't feel pressured. Should keep my mouth shut? This is his family, mine soon too but it is his mother and sister & I want to respect his feelings. His sister on the other hand has said if he doesnt want her $ she will just give it to me to spend. I am not comfortable with this but also don't want to say no to her $. Weddings are expensive!