Is this idea rude?

bananasplit472001

Maggie0829 said:

MagicInk said:

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

Locking the doors seems like a fire hazard and kind of extreme cause lets be real, you ain't Beyonce, the paparazzi aren't trying to crash your wedding.

Of course I am not important enough to warrant that sort of treatment.  Different venues do have different rules though.  The only other wedding that I have been to, my sister's, was given this sort of treatment.  Her venue is one of the most popular in the country and has strict rules.  No one was allowed in after start of ceremony and other people could not even walk up the path before they were stopped by security.  You do not have to be a celebrity to have a private ceremony so I'm not sure why you even made that comment.

I had a private ceremony. But I didn't need to lock the doors to do it. People who weren't invited just...didn't...come. It was in an art gallery, but it was after hours. There was sign that said a private event was taking place but I don't think anyone tried to come in who wasn't invited.

Of course a few people showed up late and I didn't shit my pants over it either. So we're clearly very different people. I was just glad people I invited were able to make it. Even if they were tardy.

My point about celebrities is that, my darling dear, no one gives enough of a shit to try to crash your wedding so locked doors just seem unnecessary and unsafe.

All of this.

I too had a private ceremony.  It was called people who were not invited didn't just drop by because hello crazies.  And there were a handful of people who were late.  They were free to make their way into the ceremony area but most chose to wait until it was over with because they didn't want to disturb us.  I was actually upset that they didn't just quietly walk in because I wanted everyone to witness our wedding, because that is why we invited them.

This is how I would think and is in fact my entire point.  

flantastic

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

Locking the doors seems like a fire hazard and kind of extreme cause lets be real, you ain't Beyonce, the paparazzi aren't trying to crash your wedding.

Of course I am not important enough to warrant that sort of treatment.  Different venues do have different rules though.  The only other wedding that I have been to, my sister's, was given this sort of treatment.  Her venue is one of the most popular in the country and has strict rules.  No one was allowed in after start of ceremony and other people could not even walk up the path before they were stopped by security.  You do not have to be a celebrity to have a private ceremony so I'm not sure why you even made that comment.

I had a private ceremony. But I didn't need to lock the doors to do it. People who weren't invited just...didn't...come. It was in an art gallery, but it was after hours. There was sign that said a private event was taking place but I don't think anyone tried to come in who wasn't invited.

Of course a few people showed up late and I didn't shit my pants over it either. So we're clearly very different people. I was just glad people I invited were able to make it. Even if they were tardy.

My point about celebrities is that, my darling dear, no one gives enough of a shit to try to crash your wedding so locked doors just seem unnecessary and unsafe.

I never mentioned wedding crashers at all so I do not understand where you made that up from.  I literally said my GUESTS would be locked out.  You said that it was rude.  It is.  Do I care.  No.

Clearly.

bananasplit472001 said:

Maggie0829 said:

MagicInk said:

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

Locking the doors seems like a fire hazard and kind of extreme cause lets be real, you ain't Beyonce, the paparazzi aren't trying to crash your wedding.

Of course I am not important enough to warrant that sort of treatment.  Different venues do have different rules though.  The only other wedding that I have been to, my sister's, was given this sort of treatment.  Her venue is one of the most popular in the country and has strict rules.  No one was allowed in after start of ceremony and other people could not even walk up the path before they were stopped by security.  You do not have to be a celebrity to have a private ceremony so I'm not sure why you even made that comment.

I had a private ceremony. But I didn't need to lock the doors to do it. People who weren't invited just...didn't...come. It was in an art gallery, but it was after hours. There was sign that said a private event was taking place but I don't think anyone tried to come in who wasn't invited.

Of course a few people showed up late and I didn't shit my pants over it either. So we're clearly very different people. I was just glad people I invited were able to make it. Even if they were tardy.

My point about celebrities is that, my darling dear, no one gives enough of a shit to try to crash your wedding so locked doors just seem unnecessary and unsafe.

All of this.

I too had a private ceremony.  It was called people who were not invited didn't just drop by because hello crazies.  And there were a handful of people who were late.  They were free to make their way into the ceremony area but most chose to wait until it was over with because they didn't want to disturb us.  I was actually upset that they didn't just quietly walk in because I wanted everyone to witness our wedding, because that is why we invited them.

This is how I would think and is in fact my entire point.  

And if you had sense about this issue, like Maggie, you would prefer they come in even though late, also like Maggie.

KatieinBkln

bananasplit472001 said:

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

Locking the doors seems like a fire hazard and kind of extreme cause lets be real, you ain't Beyonce, the paparazzi aren't trying to crash your wedding.

Of course I am not important enough to warrant that sort of treatment.  Different venues do have different rules though.  The only other wedding that I have been to, my sister's, was given this sort of treatment.  Her venue is one of the most popular in the country and has strict rules.  No one was allowed in after start of ceremony and other people could not even walk up the path before they were stopped by security.  You do not have to be a celebrity to have a private ceremony so I'm not sure why you even made that comment.

I had a private ceremony. But I didn't need to lock the doors to do it. People who weren't invited just...didn't...come. It was in an art gallery, but it was after hours. There was sign that said a private event was taking place but I don't think anyone tried to come in who wasn't invited.

Of course a few people showed up late and I didn't shit my pants over it either. So we're clearly very different people. I was just glad people I invited were able to make it. Even if they were tardy.

My point about celebrities is that, my darling dear, no one gives enough of a shit to try to crash your wedding so locked doors just seem unnecessary and unsafe.

I never mentioned wedding crashers at all so I do not understand where you made that up from.  I literally said my GUESTS would be locked out.  You said that it was rude.  It is.  Do I care.  No.

What on earth is a person who does not care about being rude doing giving etiquette advice?

VulgarGirl

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

Locking the doors seems like a fire hazard and kind of extreme cause lets be real, you ain't Beyonce, the paparazzi aren't trying to crash your wedding.

Of course I am not important enough to warrant that sort of treatment.  Different venues do have different rules though.  The only other wedding that I have been to, my sister's, was given this sort of treatment.  Her venue is one of the most popular in the country and has strict rules.  No one was allowed in after start of ceremony and other people could not even walk up the path before they were stopped by security.  You do not have to be a celebrity to have a private ceremony so I'm not sure why you even made that comment.

I had a private ceremony. But I didn't need to lock the doors to do it. People who weren't invited just...didn't...come. It was in an art gallery, but it was after hours. There was sign that said a private event was taking place but I don't think anyone tried to come in who wasn't invited.

Of course a few people showed up late and I didn't shit my pants over it either. So we're clearly very different people. I was just glad people I invited were able to make it. Even if they were tardy.

My point about celebrities is that, my darling dear, no one gives enough of a shit to try to crash your wedding so locked doors just seem unnecessary and unsafe.

I never mentioned wedding crashers at all so I do not understand where you made that up from.  I literally said my GUESTS would be locked out.  You said that it was rude.  It is.  Do I care.  No.

So you don't care how you treat people you invite to your wedding? Why the fuck invite them then? 

The only reason I could see locking the doors to keep people out would be because you're worried about people crashing. Because I exist in the normal world where we activly try not to treat our nearest and dearest like shit. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Avoiding all these ridiculous quote trees but...

I hope everyone is late to your wedding, bananasplit. I hope they get delayed by a train or a funeral procession or a gaggle of geese crossing the road or a presidential motorcade. I hope you lock those doors and have your perfectly private wedding ceremony with nobody to witness it but your string quartet. Then your friends will learn once and for all how rude you are. But you don't care about that.

Maggie0829

theartistformerlyknownas

Maggie0829 said:

And maybe some sheep.

artbyallie

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

Locking the doors seems like a fire hazard and kind of extreme cause lets be real, you ain't Beyonce, the paparazzi aren't trying to crash your wedding.

Of course I am not important enough to warrant that sort of treatment.  Different venues do have different rules though.  The only other wedding that I have been to, my sister's, was given this sort of treatment.  Her venue is one of the most popular in the country and has strict rules.  No one was allowed in after start of ceremony and other people could not even walk up the path before they were stopped by security.  You do not have to be a celebrity to have a private ceremony so I'm not sure why you even made that comment.

I had a private ceremony. But I didn't need to lock the doors to do it. People who weren't invited just...didn't...come. It was in an art gallery, but it was after hours. There was sign that said a private event was taking place but I don't think anyone tried to come in who wasn't invited.

Of course a few people showed up late and I didn't shit my pants over it either. So we're clearly very different people. I was just glad people I invited were able to make it. Even if they were tardy.

My point about celebrities is that, my darling dear, no one gives enough of a shit to try to crash your wedding so locked doors just seem unnecessary and unsafe.

I never mentioned wedding crashers at all so I do not understand where you made that up from.  I literally said my GUESTS would be locked out.  You said that it was rude.  It is.  Do I care.  No.

You really shouldn't try to claim you're following etiquette when you admit you're being rude. Rude and etiquette do not mix.

bananasplit472001

Thanks for an interesting afternoon for a slow and boring day at the office.  I'm not locking my guests out.  You guys are too funny to actually BELIEVE someone would actually do that. (Edited to remove TOS violation) You girls really are passionate about weddings even YEARS after yours happened.  Thanks for the laugh it is way to easy to get you girls worked up

 OP if you are still listening do not lock your guests out but I do highly suggest you start your ceremony the time it says on the invitation.

theartistformerlyknownas

bananasplit472001 said:

Thanks for an interesting afternoon for a slow and boring day at the office.  I'm not locking my guests out.  You guys are too funny to actually BELIEVE someone would actually do that.  (Edited to remove TOS violation)  You girls really are passionate about weddings even YEARS after yours happened.  Thanks for the laugh it is way to easy to get you girls worked up

 OP if you are still listening do not lock your guests out but I do highly suggest you start your ceremony the time it says on the invitation.

Well if this is true then you're even dumber than we suspected, because trolling is against TOS.

Dreamergirl8812

I hope you're better at your job than you are at trolling.

esstee33

bananasplit472001 said:

Thanks for an interesting afternoon for a slow and boring day at the office.  I'm not locking my guests out.  You guys are too funny to actually BELIEVE someone would actually do that.  (Edited to remove TOS violation).  You girls really are passionate about weddings even YEARS after yours happened.  Thanks for the laugh it is way to easy to get you girls worked up

 OP if you are still listening do not lock your guests out but I do highly suggest you start your ceremony the time it says on the invitation.

Really? Do you actually have nothing better to do with your life? 

Viczaesar

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

bananasplit472001 said:

MagicInk said:

Locking the doors seems like a fire hazard and kind of extreme cause lets be real, you ain't Beyonce, the paparazzi aren't trying to crash your wedding.

Of course I am not important enough to warrant that sort of treatment.  Different venues do have different rules though.  The only other wedding that I have been to, my sister's, was given this sort of treatment.  Her venue is one of the most popular in the country and has strict rules.  No one was allowed in after start of ceremony and other people could not even walk up the path before they were stopped by security.  You do not have to be a celebrity to have a private ceremony so I'm not sure why you even made that comment.

I had a private ceremony. But I didn't need to lock the doors to do it. People who weren't invited just...didn't...come. It was in an art gallery, but it was after hours. There was sign that said a private event was taking place but I don't think anyone tried to come in who wasn't invited.

Of course a few people showed up late and I didn't shit my pants over it either. So we're clearly very different people. I was just glad people I invited were able to make it. Even if they were tardy.

My point about celebrities is that, my darling dear, no one gives enough of a shit to try to crash your wedding so locked doors just seem unnecessary and unsafe.

I never mentioned wedding crashers at all so I do not understand where you made that up from.  I literally said my GUESTS would be locked out.  You said that it was rude.  It is.  Do I care.  No.

Then you're sure as fuck NOT following etiquette to a T, as you claimed upthread.

Viczaesar

bananasplit472001 said:

Thanks for an interesting afternoon for a slow and boring day at the office.  I'm not locking my guests out.  You guys are too funny to actually BELIEVE someone would actually do that. (Edited to remove TOS violation) You girls really are passionate about weddings even YEARS after yours happened.  Thanks for the laugh it is way to easy to get you girls worked up

 OP if you are still listening do not lock your guests out but I do highly suggest you start your ceremony the time it says on the invitation.

Okay then, hitting the report button.  Buh-bye, sweetcheeks.

KatieinBkln

When I am bored at work I read articles and gawk at SS threads. This whole "LOL I can't believe how dumb you dumb idiots are for believing me, hahahaha!" nonsense seems like the saddest excuse of a joke I can think of. All that effort just to amuse only yourself? I could sit around and make fart noises for much less effort if I really needed a giggle that badly.

Not that I even believe she was trolling--I think she put her foot in her mouth and decided to backpedal because everyone unanimously came down on her for being rude.

levioosa

Did she get banned?  Why can't I see any of her posts, only what others have quoted?  This has happened with a few posters (who I didn't ignore).  Does that happen to anyone else?

Oh, and locking your doors sounds like a terrible fire hazard and is also super messed up.  And the ceremony should start at the stated invite time. 

artbyallie

I can see her posts. Let me know if this is still an issue.

levioosa

artbyallie said:

I can see her posts. Let me know if this is still an issue.

I can see them now.  How weird. 

sophhabobopha

ashley8918

lolo883 said:

bananasplit472001 said:

Thanks for an interesting afternoon for a slow and boring day at the office.  I'm not locking my guests out.  You guys are too funny to actually BELIEVE someone would actually do that.  (Edited to remove TOS violation)  You girls really are passionate about weddings even YEARS after yours happened.  Thanks for the laugh it is way to easy to get you girls worked up

 OP if you are still listening do not lock your guests out but I do highly suggest you start your ceremony the time it says on the invitation.

Well if this is true then you're even dumber than we suspected, because trolling is against TOS.

Totally pictured you as this guy when I read this.

dcbride86

Bananasplit - that is the most extreme (and unsafe) solution I could imagine.  What if your aunt and uncle are running 5 minutes late?  Are you really going to lock out family just out of principle?  What if there is actually a fire?  You'll have to wait for the chapel to unlock the doors?  What if there's a medical emergency?  What if a child starts screaming?  You'll have to wait for the chapel to unlock the doors for a parent to take the kid outside to calm him/her down.  And then they won't be able to get back in because the doors will be locked again?  Come on, give me a break.

dcbride86

Ugh - that's what I get for responding before reading the entire 2nd page of comments.  Stupid trolling.

augsum15

OP, time on invite=time you start. 

And speaking of wedding crashers... my wedding is outside, lots of deer, I seriously hope a deer crashes my wedding, that would make some bad ass pics. 

artbyallie

Edited posts/quotes to remove violation since it has been dealt with.

Viczaesar

I don't understand, @artbyallie.  Why would you edit our posts to delete the part where we quoted her admitting that she was trolling?

artbyallie

@Viczaesar, because when the mods delete a TOS violation, we do the quotes as well. Mostly I don't want the quoting posts to get reported (which would obviously not be a valid report anyway) because the original was continuing to get reports so I edited them all. I'm sorry if you feel that was out of line. I just felt editing out the violation should be handled consistently whether it's trolling or a racist remark or name-calling, etc. I don't see what leaving the quotes alone would have affected, given that the responses remain.