Ugh. Please. Somebody talk me down, because I'm so pissed I'm shaking. And yes. I'm over reacting. I'm just so frustrated!
A while back, I posted about how my FMIL called us an hour after we booked a venue with a guest limit, and told us that it'd be really nice if we could add so-n-so. She also guilted us into adding to the WP. All this after trying to get us to move the date by 5 months.
Flash forward, and she's at it again. We get an email yesterday saying,
"Not to add to the crazy, but...
I got a call from my mom today. I have two aunts on her side asking about hotels and wedding details so they can make sure they get a room. My only aunt on my dad's side is also making noises.
Do we have any idea how many people aren't coming? There are some that wish to come including friends of ours that have known Fiance for a while. Or is there any other room that will hold more than 80? When do you have to send in an exact count? I'm getting more and more inquiries as the days go on. Can't give you an exact number although I'm counting 9 right now. Maybe a dozen.
Happy Monday."
FI talked to her, and tried to express that we were settled on a guest list, and we were only including close family and friends, not extended. She suggested that FI and I should spring for a bigger hall (my parents were kind enough to offer to pay for most of our wedding, and we ended up going with a package that included certain things, including the reception hall). FI told her that we had a package and we were sticking with what we had, and she just kept insisting that, "We'll see what opens up as we get closer."
NO! NO! NO! NO! Not happening. She needs to tell her family that, while we wish we could have, we could not invite everyone, and that if they book hotels, while it's unfortunate, we will be unable to accommodate them at the wedding. This is not something she has a say in. We will not B-List anyone! She's being very unfair by putting us in this position, and very unfair to her family by having them expect invitations that won't be coming, and having them prepare for a trip they won't be taking.
It kills me because the FILs were just here visiting last week, and we had SO MUCH FUN! They were great! But now it's like...I don't even know.
Anyway. Thanks for reading (or skimming...I know it got long). Sorry for the vent, I'm just about to pull my hair out.