October destination bride here and just need to vent for a second:
Why do people post questions in the etiquette section and then when they get a response to their question they don't like it's pretty much "well damn etiquette, it's my wedding and I will do what i want". Why even ask the question in the first place if you were already going to do that? I feel like people already know the answer to the question, but just don't want to do it: yes, you have to feed your guest at the reception!
Secondly, I'm having a destination wedding...repeat destination wedding. Can not stress the word "wedding" enough. Again with the freakin etiquette on that board too (sigh!) We're actually having a wedding there, people will see us married, there will be a marriage license signed and rings exchanged. What's up with people and these "symbolic" ceremonies??? Can't deal with the legal requirements to get married, well then I guess you're not getting married there. End. Of. Story. We're getting married in Jamaica and really there isn't anymore hassle than doing it here (send in your birth certificate and we will see you there! really easy)
I guess part of my thinks it rude to ask all these etiquette questions then have people go through the trouble of responding to your post to help you get it right and then you just say "well i'm just going to do it my way". It just seems like "to hell with your answer, it's inconvenient for me". I know I shouldn't care, but really, deep down we all know there are somethings that are just plain crazy and rude: "we're having a city hall thing, nothing big, but the REAL wedding is thousands of miles away, really expensive for our guests time and money wise, oh and we're not telling them we're already married...is this proper etiquette?"
ugh, glass of wine please...leave the bottle, but keep the glass