I have a weird situation.
Everyone says it's "bad" to "fire" a bridesmaid after asking them. But what if you never asked them? My best friend asked when I was going dress shopping... and when she went with me and my mom, she announced she was the MOH. Ummmm....
I had no intention of asking her. The reason? She complains 24/7 about how much things are (she did this as a BM in another wedding). I should have said something immediately.
She told me she doesn't want to spend more than $150 on a dress... I offered to pay the difference. She refused to accept. I consulted her about hair and makeup so I could make a deposit (there was a minimum and wanted to make sure I could meet it)... she said it was too much. I told her she could do her own thing in our hometown and meet me when it was time to get dressed. She insists on spending the night with me (the venue/place I'm staying is an hour from our hometown). I offered to pay for her hair and makeup... she told me "that's crazy, you give BM's bracelets or something cheap."
At this point, she has not put any money in- no dress ordered, no hair and makeup deposit issues, etc. I have two friends who I legitimately want to ask, and I don't want the self proclaimed MOH to bring everyone down... she's already bringing me down. She looked at the price tags of the dresses I tried on. I told her, just tell me how it looks NOT based on price.
I know I should have said something right away... but now I have to deal with this.