Hi guys, happy Friday!
Short question (longer story to follow, because you know I can't be succinct). Is there a polite way to explain basic rules of etiquette and courtesy to someone who is tactless at times?
My sister has a history of poor etiquette when it comes to weddings. For example, she:
1. RSVP'd 'no' to a wedding she intended to go to, just so that she could surprise the couple by being there, as she was living on the opposite coast (she also said that her presence was their wedding gift).
2. Invited a date last minute to a wedding where she wasn't given a +1 (called the bride the day before the wedding to tell her about the guest, and called her names when she was told they couldn't accommodate him).
3. Got drunk, yelled at a few people, then hooked up with a groomsman in my car.
4. Invited ~20 people at a house party to attend a wedding reception the next day. Many of them showed up (hometown wedding, everyone knew the couple, but weren't invited).
5. Told me that she's going to be my MOH, because she's my sister, and (if she ever marries) I'll be hers.
So, first off, I'm not having a MOH, because she and I are not close, and I'd rather avoid her tantrums at my choosing someone else. But I want to manage her expectations, and what is and isn't acceptable.
Has anyone ever gifted an etiquette book? I imagine that if I did that straight out, she would be offended (understandably). Any ideas on how I might share that information, without pushing it on her? I know when it comes to the day of, I'll just have to relax and ignore anything that comes up. But my hope is that by cluing her in to some of the basic expectations, it'll go more smoothly.