Escort cards for uninvited guests

bremnerschmitz

Just got an RSVP back from an extended family member - I invited her and her husband, she RSVPd with her, her grown daughter, her daughter's children, and an unnamed friend.... Not exactly overjoyed about this, but obviously we are accommodating them...

I don't have this extended family member's phone number to contact them for these guests' names. I asked my mom, who doesn't know their names either, and is going to check with my Gramma to get these names, but if I don't get a response, how should I do their escort cards? 

We aren't doing assigned seating, so we are using escort cards to communicate to the reception staff what meal each individual ordered (color coded cards). And I'm not changing that system, cuz they're already mostly made. Do I just write "friend of ____" etc. with the guest's name? 

esstee33

bremnerschmitz said:

Just got an RSVP back from an extended family member - I invited her and her husband, she RSVPd with her, her grown daughter, her daughter's children, and an unnamed friend.... Not exactly overjoyed about this, but obviously we are accommodating them...

I don't have this extended family member's phone number to contact them for these guests' names. I asked my mom, who doesn't know their names either, and is going to check with my Gramma to get these names, but if I don't get a response, how should I do their escort cards? 

We aren't doing assigned seating, so we are using escort cards to communicate to the reception staff what meal each individual ordered (color coded cards). And I'm not changing that system, cuz they're already mostly made. Do I just write "friend of ____" etc. with the guest's name? 

You don't need escort cards for them, because you need to get contact info for these people and call them to say you're very sorry for any misunderstanding, but the invite was only for X and Y people, not all their friends and whoever else. 

Jen4948

Why are you accommodating guests you didn't invite? I agree with @esstee33 that you should call them and explain that only those persons listed on the invitation envelope are invited and the others on the RSVP can't be accommodated.

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To All Lurkers: When you collect addresses for invitations, make sure to also get phone numbers.  You'll need to call people who do this.  You'll need to call people who DON'T rsvp so you can find out if they're coming and if they even got the invitation.  It is not a good idea to have their snail mail address and have no other method of contact.

southernbelle0915

Whaaaaat? No, escort cards aren't happening for these people. 

What you should do is call the extended family member and say, "I'm sorry for any confusion but the invitation was only addressed to you and your husband. We can't accommodate your daughter, her children and your friend. We hope to see you and your husband at the wedding." If they throw a fit, tell them you're sorry, but there won't be seats or meals for these extra people. 

That is the polite way to handle rude people who think they can just willy nilly invite people to your wedding.

Viczaesar

bremnerschmitz said:

Just got an RSVP back from an extended family member - I invited her and her husband, she RSVPd with her, her grown daughter, her daughter's children, and an unnamed friend.... Not exactly overjoyed about this, but obviously we are accommodating them...

I don't have this extended family member's phone number to contact them for these guests' names. I asked my mom, who doesn't know their names either, and is going to check with my Gramma to get these names, but if I don't get a response, how should I do their escort cards? 

We aren't doing assigned seating, so we are using escort cards to communicate to the reception staff what meal each individual ordered (color coded cards). And I'm not changing that system, cuz they're already mostly made. Do I just write "friend of ____" etc. with the guest's name? 

Why obviously?  Figure out how to get in contact with them and explain that you're sorry for the confusion but the invitation was only for X and Y and you can only accommodate X and Y.

AddieCake

My name is Addie Cake. Please make sure it is spelled correctly on my escort card. That's right. I'm inviting myself, so obviously you are going to accommodate me.