People asking what to buy as wedding gift??

appleorchard

We are not creating a registry because we really do not need "stuff." To be honest there is no space for new things, and we have been together for 7 years now so we certainly have the basics. We are hoping to buy a house around fall as we are currently renting a tiny one.

I have two family members asking what I want for a wedding gift, if there is something we really want or need. Where the hell do I go from here? 

bethsmiles

When people specifically ask you want you want as a gift it's fine to say "We have so much already but we are saving up to buy a house"

AddieCake

Yes, just tell them what Beth said.

Jen4948

bethsmiles said:

When people specifically ask you want you want as a gift it's fine to say "We have so much already but we are saving up to buy a house"

This.

fyrchk

As someone who moved into a new house...if you feel they won't be open to giving you cash...maybe a home depot or BB&B gift card? I found I needed stuff for organizing, cleaning, etc when I moved in.

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fyrchk said:

As someone who moved into a new house...if you feel they won't be open to giving you cash...maybe a home depot or BB&B gift card? I found I needed stuff for organizing, cleaning, etc when I moved in.

Gift cards are money, just like a check is money.  You can't ask people for money.  You can't register for gift cards.  When you tell people you're not registered and are saving up for a house they'll either give you nothing, give you money in the form of check, cash, or gift card, or they'll give you a gift you didn't register for.  All these are perfectly valid as a gift is never expected.  A Thank You note should be promptly written even if the next thing you do is walk the picture frame gift over to the Goodwill.

theartistformerlyknownas

fyrchk said:

As someone who moved into a new house...if you feel they won't be open to giving you cash...maybe a home depot or BB&B gift card? I found I needed stuff for organizing, cleaning, etc when I moved in.

OP is not ASKING for cash though, that's the point. Saying "we're not registered but we're hoping to buy a house soon!" is just meant to be a hint toward what might be a helpful gift. If someone tells you that they're buying a house, then yes it would be thoughtful of you as the gift giver to choose to give a HD/BB&B gift card. But OP shouldn't be asking specifically for a gift card any more than specifically asking for fifties. It's all still money.

BouxRadley

We ran into a little bit of the same problem, so I left FI in charge of it (which worked about as well as it sounds) and he just ended up registering for better quality basics, in hopes of being able to move stuff out as stuff comes in. It works in theory, we'll see.