My FMIL's BFF offered to to throw us an Engagement Party in FH's hometown. They are an old family from the South so it was a not-so-small shock when we announced we are getting married 1300 miles away in my hometown and where FH went to school. We are the first couple in the family to not get married there. We are very thankful but FMIL mentioned inviting people we are not inviting to the wedding. Doctors she works with, FH's dad's old buddies (FFIL passed 10 years ago), other family friends who knew FH when he was young. Since FMIL's BFFwill be hosting, am I correct they can invite whomever they please? Is there something we can rename the party to make it more appropriate? I have learned that an Engagement Party is supposed to be for the families to meet, my family won't be coming, so it seems to me this should be renamed at the very least. As I understand it, they basically want to have a party to invite people who would be happy in seeing FH for the first time in a long time and who *might* have been invited to the wedding had we decided to have it there. Should I say something or just let them have their party? Is there anything I can do/say/suggest to make this better?