So as I've mentioned in other threads, last week I hosted a dear college friend. We hadn't seen each other in about three years, so it was great to catch up. At one point during her trip, she mentioned that she was going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding soon, and a few things made my eyebrows go up:
"She only asked me a couple weeks ago, and we're not that close, so I have a feeling she asked me because someone dropped out."
"They're actually already married. They did the paperwork because they needed the health insurance."
I can't deny I got a little snarky at that point. I mentioned then, that it's not actually a wedding, and my friend's argument was basically, "Well, they already had the deposit down when they found out they had to get married. What were they supposed to do?"
I could tell she was a little upset at my butting in, so I dropped it. But then she started asking more questions, and they were genuinely curious. She wanted to know all about wedding etiquette. Primarily, she wanted to know why I'm against getting married and then having a "wedding" later, because, and I'm quoting, "I've literally never been to a wedding where the couple wasn't married beforehand."
She honestly thought that the paperwork portion was "a huge hassle" and it was better to get it out of the way weeks or even months before the wedding, and then have the ceremony later. I told her even courthouse weddings require some kind of ceremony, which is legally binding. It's not just signing a piece of paper, and it's really not such a complicated process that it needs to be done separately for the rest of the wedding. So yes, in fact, she is going to be attending a re-enactment of a ceremony. This would not be the first time the couple said their vows.
I seriously think I blew her mind. And she later admitted that she was kind of bothered at being asked to be a BM, but didn't think there was a way to decline.
What mind-blowing wedding things (or hey, even non wedding things) have you educated your friends on? Do you hold your tongue when they mention grievous etiquette errors?