First of all, I'm so happy I found other snarky brides... finally a board where you don't have to blow smoke up everyone's ass!
Here's the deal: I love my mom, but we have never really been that close. I was always really close to my dad (who passed away in 2013) and I think she always resented that I was closer to him than her. I'm 30 years old and engaged to a great guy who everyone in the family (including her) seems to like, but so far, she just hasn't seemed happy for me at all. It feels like she wishes I would elope or something. Here are some examples of what she has said:
1.) Right after I told her we were engaged, she told me not to spend too much on the wedding. And that when I'm 65 I'll wish I didn't spend the money on my wedding so I can retire. She hasn't contributed any funds towards the wedding and I would rather keep it that way. True, I guess we could save our money, but is it such a crime to spend on celebrating our marriage with friends and family? It isn't a cheap wedding, but we aren't going hog wild either!
2.) She was pissed because I wouldn't use the traditional wording with parents names on my wedding invitations. Mainly because (and I told her this) my dad is gone and it makes me sad to precede his name with "the late" and they divorced when I was little. Also, my FI and I are paying for the wedding not our parents!
3.) This is the real kicker: My mom is christian and apparently doesn't agree with me living with my FI before marriage. She had the nerve to tell me that I shouldn't have anyone walk me down the aisle or give me away because I have already given myself away and it would be really tacky. I wasn't planning on having anyone give me away anyways! I haven't lived at home in 8 years! I never mentioned this to her, but I was thinking about asking her to walk me down the aisle before she said that, but at this point, I'd rather walk alone with the memory of my dad.
Am I being too sensitive? Has anyone else dealt with something like this? What the hell?!