I know the question of whether or not nursing mothers should be allowed at adults only weddings has been asked to death, and not surprisingly, it came up for me today. A long time family friend, noted to my mother how her adult daughters (who are invited) were talking about bringing their new borns to our wedding. For what it's worth at the time of the wedding they will be approximately 9 and 6 months… but anywho onto my actual question…
When it comes to evaluating this (informal) request, is there any case where it's appropriate to say it's ok for the reception, but not the ceremony?
To give a bit of basis on this question, my fiancé and I, after lots and lots of budget talk and evaluating what was important to us, we decided to move forward with a videographer. The situation that cases me anxiety in regard to this is the thought of walking down the aisle *cue crying babies* or during vows, or during any pivotal moment being filmed. As another addition, our wedding will be outside in an orchard, so there is no real quick "out the door" escape for crying babies if it were to occur.
I don't particularly find the wedding to be that baby appropriate either way as it's an evening reception with a plated 3 course meal, but simultaneously I want to do my best to find a middle ground. Simultaneously, I don't want to even further offend by trying to finagle a compromise, rather than just saying no.
Any advice would be appreciated!