I'm mostly a lurker, but I have posted here related to the BSC FILs. FI and I got engaged last May, and his mother did nothing but whine about it and how we didn't call every family member personally transatlantically. After several months of getting nothing but insults about our wedding plans, I convinced FI that it was OK not to talk to these people anymore about the wedding; they will find everything out just like everyone else -- on the wedding invitation.
FI mentioned to his father in an email early this week that we got our wedding pics done.** Thinking that we meant engagement photos, FILs now want a photo of us to put in the paper to "Announce Our Engagement" and to post on Facebook.
Considering
we've been engaged for over a year now, I think it's too little too
late, both in terms of whoring us out to their friends for status
reasons, as well as announcing the engagement; it's old news. FI doesn't want to burn a bridge, as he holds out hope that they will get over themselves.
The
relationship with FILs has been touch and go from the jump. We aren't doing an engagement shoot just for them, so we don't have a fancy photo to put in a newspaper, just photos of me and him being nerds at historical sites. Should we supply them this and not say anything about the long delay, or should we just decline the wedding announcement/bragging rights request altogether?
**(FI and I get hitched in December, but due to academic schedules, this is the last time we see each other til then. So we got prettied up in our wedding suit and cocktail dress and got it done in a small studio session, as they did it back in the early days of wedding photography. We've elected not to have a pro photographer at our tiny, under 25-person wedding, so we're sort of doing the opposite of the infamous unplugged wedding - we don't care what the guests do re: cameras.)
Updated: See below for more info; in summary, the announcement in the paper is ok, but we don't trust FILs to not use photos inappropriately.