Destination Wedding Etiquette

BirdenTOCorbett

Hello! We are have a wedding with just my grandparents and parents in Las Vegas and then a huge family reception at home for all family. I invite everyone to both my bridal shower and bachlorette party, right?

lovegood90

BirdenTOCorbett said:

Hello! We are have a wedding with just my grandparents and parents in Las Vegas and then a huge family reception at home for all family. I invite everyone to both my bridal shower and bachlorette party, right?

Nope, it's only appropriate to invite those going to your wedding in Vegas to your shower and bachelorette.

Any pre wedding parties like this should be offered by others and not planned by you, BTW.

onefootinthebayou

BirdenTOCorbett said:

Hello! We are have a wedding with just my grandparents and parents in Las Vegas and then a huge family reception at home for all family. I invite everyone to both my bridal shower and bachlorette party, right?

Nope.  Whomever offers to host your pre-wedding party/ies (not you) should not invite anyone not invited to your actual wedding to any pre-wedding events.  Choosing to basically elope, which is totally acceptable, means you wouldn't have a shower since you don't have wedding guests (outside of your parents/grandparents).  It's a perfectly fine choice to make, but you will forego celebrating things like showers/bachelorette parties with other friends & family.  

AddieCake

No. You only invite people invited to the actual wedding ceremony to pre-wedding parties.

Viczaesar

BirdenTOCorbett said:

Hello! We are have a wedding with just my grandparents and parents in Las Vegas and then a huge family reception at home for all family. I invite everyone to both my bridal shower and bachlorette party, right?

Nope.  The only people who can be invited to a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party are your grandparents and parents.  

Jen4948

No. Only people invited to the actual wedding can be invited to any wedding-related event.

Maggie0829

Another example of how I don't understand small ceremonies and larger receptions later.  You either want to keep your wedding small or you want to celebrate with everyone.  AHRs seem like consolation prizes for the rest of your family and friends.

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BirdenTOCorbett said:

Hello! We are have a wedding with just my grandparents and parents in Las Vegas and then a huge family reception at home for all family. I invite everyone to both my bridal shower and bachlorette party, right?

First, YOU don't invite ANYone to either your bridal shower or your bachelorette party.  These are parties thrown FOR you and not BY you.  Second, if someone offers to throw one for you, the only people on the guest list can be people invited to your ACTUAL wedding, not the consolation prize At-Home-Reception.