My fiance and I are both in our 40s. This is a second marriage for both of us. We don't really NEED anything in terms of typical new home stuff. We need big ticket items, like having the deck/patio redone.We had thought about a honeyfund type thing but, from what I am reading, that is considered bad form. I don't much care if people give gifts or not, but I know they will feel like they need to. So what are the options?
We were also thinking about making donations to a charity in lieu of favors, in part so people don't have stuff to bring home with them (most are traveling to the event) and because we have a charity we care very much about. But, apparently, this is in poor form as well?
I am so confused....