Wedding Recap and Withdrawal

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Hi Everyone,

My name is ~Tuck~, and while I am not new to the knot, I am new to this board and wanted to introduce myself.

My question for all the brides out there is, in the last few weeks leading up to your wedding, did you find yourself not caring about all the little last-minute things?  Lately, I am finding that I don't care about all the last minute details, I am just ready to be married!  I used to worry that things would go wrong, but now I feel like who cares if things go wrong the day of the wedding, the end result is the same - I will be married to my best friend.  Anytime someone asks about the wedding, I find myself not wanting to talk about it, I am tired of planning, tired of spending my hard-earned dollars, and tired of reassuring people that no, I am not nervous, no I do not have cold feet, yes, I am ready to get married.  Did anyone else feel this way?
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  • Yup, I felt the same way. I told myself (which was really hard for me to do) that anything that was not done a week prior to the wedding, I was not bothering with.

    We planned our wedding from out of state and I was tired of the endless e-mails, phone calls and trips home to make sure things were in order. I knew I was making the right decision and didn't consider myself having wet feet, either. There were a few things that went wrong, but at the end of the day, we had an awesome wedding and I am now married to my best friend. And I can't believe its been almost 10 months already!
  • Yeah, I stopped carring.  I decided that really "no one cares" (guest anyways) about the little details, like matching stuff.

    Yep, ready to be married is the feeling I had.
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  • I am getting married in 33 days and other then worrying a bit about the weather for our outdoor wedding I have stopped caring. Even the weather is no big deal since we have backup plans. I am so ready for the wedding to be over and to be on vacation (honeymoon) with my HUSBAND!
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  • I have 75 days to go and right now I'm very concerned about the details like music, decor, etc but I've already told myself that things that aren't done the week before the wedding will just have to go by the way side. The last thing I want is to be super stressed the week before the wedding.
  • 11 days today, and I gotta be honest... I AM SOOOOOO OVER IT! LOL! I really just want to be married now... If everything falls apart at the last second, oh well.... the only thing that matters is we will be married!
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  • I am so done with it all. My BM's are constantly asking how I want their hair... and right now, I really don't care. I have been planning our wedding for 2 years now. I can't wait.. in 11 days I will marry my best friend and I won't have anymore planning!!

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  • I was also done before the wedding. We had a day weekend before the wedding and I was done. If it wasn't done that day, I wasn't going to do it. I didn't do menus or signature drink signs. I am sure there were other things, but those two items I just scratched.
  • We didn't do menus or a signature drink either. No one seemed to complain, or at least not that I heard.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_hello?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:12Discussion:c9bf9aee-ef65-41c1-b7f6-3cd3c884a5ddPost:a00f12e5-b4a4-4171-b233-5ad0abe59745">Re: Hello!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am so done with it all. My BM's are constantly asking how I want their hair... and right now, I really don't care. I have been planning our wedding for 2 years now. I can't wait.. in 11 days I will marry my best friend and I won't have anymore planning!!
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    I completely understand where you are coming from! I just feel like all of this drama and crap needs to be done! LOL!
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  • My DOC reminded me that there would be people to explain the choices in the buffet.
    The signature drinks were fine because they didn't end up having pink lemonade on the gun that night (something was wrong with it). I would have looked like a fool if I did signature drinks.
  • Thanks everyone!  I thought I was crazy to feel this way.  I know this is supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life, and I feel kind of bad that I am in the "I just don't care, I am ready to be married!" funk.  Glad to know I am not alone!
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  • I was totally over that when I reached my 2-3 month mark! Just ready to get married and get on with our lives!

  • You are definitely not alone. But still enjoy this time ... you can't go back and unlike any other party or most other events, you wont do it again (hopefully!!). I'm sure there are things that most of us wish we could do over. I enjoyed my wedding and am glad to be married, but I wish there were certain things I could relive or do over. Good luck and congratulations!!!!
  • Yep, I was very over it by about 2 weeks in advance. Especially after I finished the seating chart and escort cards. After that I was d.o.n.e.

    In fact, the caterer was still not finalized by the Tuesday before the wedding and I handed it over to my FI and DOC to finish, because I was so done... caterers were'nt communicating well, I asked the lady to call me, she came up with an excuse why she couldn't call me and I went totally bridezilla and my FI jumped in with the DOC and got it done. In the end I was happy I did this. AND that was the first time I went bridezilla in the whole 18 mo. planning process.... so I knew how done I was.

    I made sure everthing was completed and packed for the venue a week in advance, and I even had everything packed for the HM too. Just put together a quick overnighter for the hotel during the last week..... and enjoyed my family...
  • At the rehearsal grandparents and family kept asking "are you ready? are you excited?"  I just said, "No, I'm ready to be done.  I'm over this."  And I meant it!  If I had a dollar for every time I said "screw it" (or another version thereof) on the days leading up...
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