Hi! I'm new (just engaged this summer) but in need of advice!
I'm not sure if this is more etiquette or invites, so please bear with me if I'm wrong.
My FH and I got engaged in May, and have our venue and date set for April 2017, giving us a nice leisurely 2 year engagement. Most of my friends and family know the date and some know the venue, and since we're a small community, pretty much everyone (except coworkers) I've talked to about the wedding will be invited. FH's family is more spread out, so they'll be travelling from all over the country if they can come.
I'm already working on the stationary, and I'm wondering if there's a problem with my timeline. The venue asks for 4 weeks notice for a final count, and the hotel wants a count around the same time. I'm thinking:
Save the Dates - sent 10-11 months in advance, for those travelling across the country to have plenty of time to plan
Invites - sent 3-4 months in advance
RSVP - about 2 months in advance
I want a long window so people have just as much time to plan as we do, and I want a lot of wiggle room because I know my family will make last minute changes. But is it considered rude to ask people to RSVP so far in advance? Or just uncommon?