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Mom decided to get married one week after me!

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Re: Mom decided to get married one week after me!

  • My mother has been engaged for 1.5 years and with her fiancé for almost 12 years. All I am saying I that I find it a bit odd that once I get engaged and started planning my wedding, she decides all of a sudden "well, I will get married now, too!" You guys don't know me at all. I am NOT a bridezilla by any means and am not upset that my mom is marrying her love. I just wish she maybe had done it already or a few months after me. That is all.
  • AddieCake said:

    I don't understand why none of the supporters of this can answer the question of what would be an appropriate or acceptable amount of time before Mom could have her wedding. Or is it like porn....you can't define it but you'll know it when you see it?

    Yeah for me it is a bit like porn. A week just seems silly close. A month feels ok. For a mom or sister. Cousins/friends/etc I would go with whenever, just hopefully not actually at the same time. Maybe I shouldn't be irritated by it, but I would be. I wouldn't say anything of course and I'd get over it, but I'd be annoyed.
  • My mother has been engaged for 1.5 years and with her fiancé for almost 12 years. All I am saying I that I find it a bit odd that once I get engaged and started planning my wedding, she decides all of a sudden "well, I will get married now, too!" You guys don't know me at all. I am NOT a bridezilla by any means and am not upset that my mom is marrying her love. I just wish she maybe had done it already or a few months after me. That is all.
    And that makes you a bridezilla, honey. 

    Again, you clearly are upset. Just fucking own it. Jesus Christ. 
  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    edited August 2015
    She gave you a specific reason why now as opposed to later. There's no mystery here.
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  • My mother has been engaged for 1.5 years and with her fiancé for almost 12 years. All I am saying I that I find it a bit odd that once I get engaged and started planning my wedding, she decides all of a sudden "well, I will get married now, too!" You guys don't know me at all. I am NOT a bridezilla by any means and am not upset that my mom is marrying her love. I just wish she maybe had done it already or a few months after me. That is all.
    To the first bolded: this doesn't matter; she can be engaged for as little or long as she wants and you have no bearing on her decisions. To the second bolded, obviously your wish isn't coming true and it IS very bridezilla of you to be this upset over it. She made her decision for a reason that is logical enough for anyone to understand, and it's not your place to complain about when she chooses to have her wedding. You already said that your weddings are completely different, so why are you still having a hissy fit? You'll have your day, and she'll have hers...7 days after yours. I can only imagine what you'd say if she did it before yours; let's be real, you'd find an issue with that too. This isn't a place lacking in support, but it is if you're going to throw a fit about something that isn't that big of a deal. The ladies here brought you off your high horse; just accept what is and move on.

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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    edited August 2015
    AddieCake said:
    She gave you a specific reason why now as opposed to later. There's no mystery here.
    Yes, its your grandma that's coming up from Florida?  How often does she make this trek?  Hardly ever?  Than I think your mom is justified in having her wedding a week after yours.  Does grandma come up all the time?  Then maybe your mom is trying to take away some of your thunder.  Either way, your mom has set her date, so just be happy for her.
     
  • This one of those things that is fine to vent, but just move on.  It the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal.  Like at all.  It's a week later, lives have moved on.  Actually most people's lives move on the next day.   They go back to cleaning, cooking, working and having to attend another wedding a week later.   

    I've said this over and over, people are able to celebrate more than one thing at a time.  Certainly within a week of each other.






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  • AddieCake said:
    She gave you a specific reason why now as opposed to later. There's no mystery here.
    Yes, its your grandma that's coming up from Florida?  How often does she make this trek?  Hardly ever?  Than I think your mom is justified in having her wedding a week after yours.  Does grandma come up all the time?  Then maybe your mom is trying to take away some of your thunder.  Either way, your mom has set her date, so just be happy for her.
     

    How old is your grandmother? Travel can be especially taxing on the elderly.

    Your mom wants her mom at her wedding. She's found a way that makes it convenient for someone who needs to be driven up from Florida (Which - holy crap, I don't care how old/young you are - that is a long ass drive).

    Also - you may want to change your username. Internet privacy and all.

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