I've read through a few other posts about their wedding heartbreak and well mine is not as bad as others. Nonetheless I am feeling the typical wedding woes and feel that writing about it may help me to feel better.
Let me just start by saying, my fiance and I really did choose our bridal party carefully but sometimes you just have to deal with the unexpected. Today, my fiance and his best man got in the biggest fight they have ever had. It started when our best man became very distant. He just didn't care to make time to be a part of anything for my fiance. This has been extremely frustrating as I have seen my fiance hurt and disappointed many times.
On top of it all, the best man has been the one who has complained the most. We had all of the guys buy their suits for the wedding which only cost $110. Since the best man waited to the last minute to get his alterations (plus he wanted the suit perfectly fitted to him) they charged him another $70. He was the last one to get his suit from the store. After he paid for it, he proceeded to text me fiance about how expensive it was and gave him serious attitude for it.
The bachelor party is another story. My brothers from out of town is one of the groomsmen and was excited to come in for the bachelor party. He works weekends so it had to be planned a few weeks ahead of time for him to ask off. The best man had it planned for the beginning of the month and the week of, changed it to the same weekend as the bachelorette party. Since the best man was complaining about costs, he couldn't afford to take the guys to a hotel. He kicked my maid of honor's plans to the curb and we had to get a hotel for the weekend.
On top of all of that, I have a few bridesmaids who are just disinterested in the wedding as a whole. They say that they are there to help but then don't come through when things need to be done. One bridesmaid in particular, who I chose because she was a close friend has been very distant. She had planned to take me lingerie shopping with another bridesmaid and backed out, without notice, because she had gotten home from the dentist and took a nap. It normally wouldn't have bothered me if she would've at least text me the next day. I never heard from her until I ran into her at church a week later.
Point blank, bridal parties are no joke. If you are in one, which I have been a few times, be all in or step down. Your future bride and groom are a nervous wreck and need all of the love and support they can get. It just hurts when the people who are closest to you in one of the biggest seasons of your entire life distance themselves from you so much.
Thank you all for listening to my rant about bridal parties. Let me just mention that most of our party is amazing! I have just chosen to focus on them and enjoy the support they are giving us.
Any advice or stories that are like mine are greatly appreciated.