Mom wants me to Elope :(
Hey Ladies, My fiance and I have been engaged for 1 year as of 2 weeks ago and are finally starting to plan our wedding. We are paying for everything ourselves since he is 33 and I am 36. I'm an only child and always thought I would have some sort of wedding. My parents eloped and many relatives in my family have done the same so this whole wedding concept is alien to my parents. Anyway.. it's just been frustrating in terms of my mom. She kept telling me what a waste of money this all is and how we should elope like my cousin 43 year old male cousin recently did. We are looking to spend around 3-4k max. for everything including dress etc.. there would be 8 of us in total at the wedding and reception. My mom has also said she is to busy to participate in any way even when it came to helping me find a dress. I ended up going alone with my fiance and ran across a beautiful one at a sample sale for 500$ plus $250 for alterations. Anyway..I was hesitant to even go to a bridal dress shop since she thought the dresses aka poofy gowns (as she calls them) look over the top and thought I should look at a department store for a nice simple dress. When I called her about the dress and how I found it she was not that excited and just said I should have it taken in after wedding so I can use it and not waste all that money. Anyway.. it's just one thing after the other and it makes me super duper sad. I feel no excitement about this wedding.. my fiance is very sweet and told me he was proud of me for finding a nice dress with him.. but I just wish my mom cared . She just thinks weddings are a waste and the money should be used for more important things. We are financially stable though and we own a house with only 14 more years left on mortgage and we both have savings.. so I don't get it. On the other hand fiance's mom was ANTI us buying the house haha.. and thought we should be throwing a BIG WEDDING! omg.. I have had her questing me about this wedding for well over a year.. it's like the complete opposite of my mom. She's made me feel bad for NOT planning anything and she's bummed her bunch of friends can't come since the location is for 10 max. Anyway.. mom's you can never make them happy. Ug.. I can't wait till this is all over. P.S I attached a pic of the dress.. I'm dropping 30-40 llbs before the big day.. so hopefully I'll look pretty and not goofy as my mom currently thinks. Any thoughts on how to cope with this?
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