My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years and have been living together for 5 years. With no disrespect to other brides and future brides, it has taken us quite some time to come around to the idea of getting married. We are a very simple, nontraditional, and private couple, and there are many aspects of the traditional American wedding that are contrary to our style. My boyfriend's parents have never tried to rush us into marriage, but my parents are more traditional and have been making their opinion vocal for some time.
We've finally come to the decision together that we are ready to get married. We want to tell our parents and are planning to surprise them with the engagement news at a joint brunch in two weeks. Our parents get along very well, but I am starting to get anxiety that something will go wrong. Of course, I think they will both be thrilled, but what if my parents are upset that my boyfriend didn't get their "blessing" first (which I was strongly against -- we are two adults in a long-term committed relationship and I wanted to make this decision together, just the two of us)? What if my parents are upset when we tell them that we want to have a destination wedding in Miami as opposed to in my hometown? What if my parents start asking us about our plans for the wedding, and our ideas are very different from theirs?
We think it will be really special to surprise our parents with the news, but I wanted to know if anyone had any success/failure engagement announcement stories to share. Thank you!!