I am asking my BP to pick long dresses in a few shades of blue. As far as shoes and hair and makeup, they can do literally whatever they want.
I created a list with a bunch of different dresses I personally like, and I organized it by price just to give them some ideas or jumping off points, because some of them have expressed panic when I told them I wasn't going to be super picky about their clothes.
A few of my BMs all live in the same area, and I think they want to go shopping as a group. One of my BMs lives across the country and I know she will definitely be picking out her dress on her own.
My question is: what is the best way to communicate these kinds of details to my BP? I am fine with going shopping with whoever wants to go, but I also don't care if they want to go themselves. Should I just share the doc of different dress ideas with everyone in a Facebook message and see who wants to do what? I am trying to make sure I don't ruffle any feathers or hurt any feelings in any way.
Also, other than repeatedly saying that I don't need their help with anything, how can I dispel this whole sense of "well, XYZ is what a GOOD bridal party does?" One of my BMs has already said she would help me make centerpieces or pick things out if I want. My MOH apparently made a binder of ideas. I told them both that I really don't expect them to do any of that and I don't want them to do that kind of stuff, but they keep rolling their eyes and telling me to knock it off. GAH!