Hello!! I'm hoping I can get some outside opinions for an issue I've been faced with. Here we go:
A close friend of mine got married earlier this year. I was by her side while she planned everything. I went dress shopping with her, went to wedding expo's, helped with DIY reception decorations, the list goes on and on. She ultimately found a dress at David's Bridal and it was perfect for her wedding, theme, location etc.
I got engaged a few months after she did, but even though we were both planning at the same time, she didn't really want the attention to be on anyone but herself. I sat back and let her have her moment while dress shopping even though I was dying to try some dresses on myself.
Now, months have passed since her wedding and mine isn't until February of next year. I've just started getting serious about finding my own dress. I went shopping with another close friend this past weekend because the first friend couldn't attend.
The dress that I'm in love with has a similar silhouette as my recently married friend, but mine is a designer dress, not from David's. Even though I knew I couldn't get this dress at David's I still made an appointment there to try stuff on since I really hadn't tried on any and possibly would find something there that I liked even in a different silhouette....
When I described the designer dress and showed pictures of it to the girl helping at David's, she went to the racks and grabbed a handful of dresses that she thought I'd like. I tried on several of them and a few other styles as well and the friend that accompanied me took pictures of all of them.
One of the last dresses she pulled happened to be the same dress that my recently married friend had worn for her wedding. I figured, why not try it on so that I can at least get an idea of what that type of dress would look like on me since the silhouette was similar to the designer dress I've been eyeing. (Let me also add that my friend is a plus sized girl and I'm more on the average/slim side so the dress wouldn't even look the same on both of us).
I thought nothing of it and even took a few pictures of it. I later sent one of them to her and asked her if it looked familiar. I told her that I didn't even seek it out, that the girl working there pulled it for me after seeing the designer dress I want. I also sent her pictures of the other 15 plus dresses that I had tried on at my appointment.
For 5 days now, she hasn't responded, even though I explained I only tried it on to get an idea of the shape and had absolutely no intentions to buy it. ..... crickets.....
Now, she's expressed to me via email how hurt she was that I'd even THINK of trying on the same dress that she wore. She said it hurt her feelings and couldn't believe that any of her friends would even dare to try it on, let alone, send her a picture of it. Mind you, she never said anything about not wanting me to try it on prior to me going shopping. She even admitted herself before I went shopping that the designer dress I want looks similar to the one she wore.
I don't even know how I should react to this.. I thought we were close and I kinda expected her to want to be there for my "special moment" and now she's pissed because I simply tried on the same dress that she bought? Is she being unreasonable or did I do something terribly wrong? I don't even know how to respond to her... Please HELP!
I've attached pictures of both dresses, The one with the gold sash is my designer dream dress and the other is the dress my friend purchased from David's.