Random Thoughts/Whining

thefanciestbeckler

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

lyndausvi

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

yikes.

The wedding I worked on Saturday most of the GMs hung out in the bar area to watch football.    I was constantly asked to switch games.   Some of them even missed dinner.  

I like football, but I thought that was a little ridiculous.

ShesSoCold

lyndausvi said:

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

yikes.

The wedding I worked on Saturday most of the GMs hung out in the bar area to watch football.    I was constantly asked to switch games.   Some of them even missed dinner.  

I like football, but I thought that was a little ridiculous.

I've been this jerk.

My cousin had a DW in Tampa and coincidentally it fell during the Stanley Cup finals - against Tampa. There were no TVs in the room or patio area for the wedding so we kept going downstairs to the public bar to check scores. 

lyndausvi

ShesSoCold said:

lyndausvi said:

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

yikes.

The wedding I worked on Saturday most of the GMs hung out in the bar area to watch football.    I was constantly asked to switch games.   Some of them even missed dinner.  

I like football, but I thought that was a little ridiculous.

I've been this jerk.

My cousin had a DW in Tampa and coincidentally it fell during the Stanley Cup finals - against Tampa. There were no TVs in the room or patio area for the wedding so we kept going downstairs to the public bar to check scores. 

Playoffs are the exception.  I mean I you are going to have a wedding during the SuperBowl, World Series, Stanley Cup, College football championships or the NBA championship, well you have to live with the consquences.

thefanciestbeckler

lyndausvi said:

ShesSoCold said:

lyndausvi said:

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

yikes.

The wedding I worked on Saturday most of the GMs hung out in the bar area to watch football.    I was constantly asked to switch games.   Some of them even missed dinner.  

I like football, but I thought that was a little ridiculous.

I've been this jerk.

My cousin had a DW in Tampa and coincidentally it fell during the Stanley Cup finals - against Tampa. There were no TVs in the room or patio area for the wedding so we kept going downstairs to the public bar to check scores. 

Playoffs are the exception.  I mean I you are going to have a wedding during the SuperBowl, World Series, Stanley Cup, College football championships or the NBA championship, well you have to live with the consquences.

I totally agree with this!!

ryanandjoe4

becklertobe said:

lyndausvi said:

ShesSoCold said:

lyndausvi said:

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

yikes.

The wedding I worked on Saturday most of the GMs hung out in the bar area to watch football.    I was constantly asked to switch games.   Some of them even missed dinner.  

I like football, but I thought that was a little ridiculous.

I've been this jerk.

My cousin had a DW in Tampa and coincidentally it fell during the Stanley Cup finals - against Tampa. There were no TVs in the room or patio area for the wedding so we kept going downstairs to the public bar to check scores. 

Playoffs are the exception.  I mean I you are going to have a wedding during the SuperBowl, World Series, Stanley Cup, College football championships or the NBA championship, well you have to live with the consquences.

I totally agree with this!!

FI was worried our wedding was going to be during a UC football game, He gets season tickets with his BM and they never miss games. I said well too bad guess you will miss a game.. he got lucky it is there off week.

kimmiinthemitten

becklertobe said:

lyndausvi said:

ShesSoCold said:

lyndausvi said:

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

yikes.

The wedding I worked on Saturday most of the GMs hung out in the bar area to watch football.    I was constantly asked to switch games.   Some of them even missed dinner.  

I like football, but I thought that was a little ridiculous.

I've been this jerk.

My cousin had a DW in Tampa and coincidentally it fell during the Stanley Cup finals - against Tampa. There were no TVs in the room or patio area for the wedding so we kept going downstairs to the public bar to check scores. 

Playoffs are the exception.  I mean I you are going to have a wedding during the SuperBowl, World Series, Stanley Cup, College football championships or the NBA championship, well you have to live with the consquences.

I totally agree with this!!

I've attended weddings during the summer Olympics when Michael Phelps was on track for the most medals in a game as well as the Michigan/Michigan State game and both times the staff wheeled out a TV of sorts for the cocktail hour so people could watch. 

But to be a groomsman and to leave!  I'm sorry Beckler, that's awful .

MegEn1

kvruns said:

MegEn1 said:

Numbers were due to the caterer today and virtually nobody is coming to the wedding -- 123 out of 172.

123 are coming or 123 are NOT coming?

123 RSVP yes out of 172 invited guests -- well 175 now when FMIL started calling some of her friends who hadn't RSVPed she started adding people on in the family who 'never got their invites'. That was because they got cut way back in the day, you cut them ... okay in one case their invite got returned like two days later, no idea where it was in the mail for two weeks...

thisismynickname2

ShesSoCold said:

lyndausvi said:

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

yikes.

The wedding I worked on Saturday most of the GMs hung out in the bar area to watch football.    I was constantly asked to switch games.   Some of them even missed dinner.  

I like football, but I thought that was a little ridiculous.

I've been this jerk.

My cousin had a DW in Tampa and coincidentally it fell during the Stanley Cup finals - against Tampa. There were no TVs in the room or patio area for the wedding so we kept going downstairs to the public bar to check scores. 

We may have been at a wedding on the same night. At least one of the guests was streaming the game on his phone (we were at a historic house; no bar or television area). People kept crowding around him to watch. To be fair, none of the guests that were live-streaming the game on their phones or constantly checking for updates were the types to be on the dance floor anyway, and the dance floor still had plenty of people on it. 

ryanandjoe4

MegEn1 said:

kvruns said:

MegEn1 said:

Numbers were due to the caterer today and virtually nobody is coming to the wedding -- 123 out of 172.

123 are coming or 123 are NOT coming?

123 RSVP yes out of 172 invited guests -- well 175 now when FMIL started calling some of her friends who hadn't RSVPed she started adding people on in the family who 'never got their invites'. That was because they got cut way back in the day, you cut them ... okay in one case their invite got returned like two days later, no idea where it was in the mail for two weeks...

My MOH didn't get hers, and my brother's was sent back,my mom's we just got back 4 WEEKS later (where the hell did it go, she live 30 minutes from us!) so we started calling people, some had forgotten to respond, or were busy and cant make it any ways, some of our response cards were lost in the mail too..

if what your saying is because some have not responded, or have said no then your sending out "b-list" like invites because you have a 71% yes rate is really rude to those that were "cut way back in the day".. If the 29% have not responded at all, or are they all for sure absolutely not coming.. I just dont understand why 120 people is so bad, I invited 150 and only 115 are coming I am not upset or worried that 35 people wont be making it, I am ecstatic that 115 are coming...

fyrchk

I have a coworker who thinks she is smarter than the rest of us and is constantly patting herself on the back. Today she has been wandering around the office just hovering whenever she sees people talking. The issue is that we will be discussing client care that has nothing to do with her and there she is. She keeps popping up behind me at my desk and it's making me nuts. 

simcal18

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.  Sorry--that's a bummer.  If it makes you feel any better, I went to a wedding once where there were 16 groomsmen.  16!!!!  Then they all disappeared immediately after dinner--it was the weirdest thing.  We didn't know many people at this wedding so we asked around about where they had gone--turns out they went down the street to a strip club.  And the groom joined them for a while.  So it could have been worse .  .  .

labro

becklertobe said:

ShesSoCold said:

becklertobe said:

Here's my irritation for the day.

Our wedding was a week and a half ago. All of the groomsmen left about 30 minutes into the reception. Every single one of them. Because they were "bored" (nobody else was) and they wanted to watch football.

It really hurt H's feelings, but he would never say anything to them.

Ouch.

Yeah. These guys are in their 30's. And they wonder why they're single.... I may have a few ideas!

Ugh. We had one groomsman leave early from our wedding too. Because he had to go out to the bars for the "ladies". I came really close to saying 1. "wtf dude" and 2. "We have an open bar, so you want to leave to go BUY alcohol instead?". I'm still kind of irked about it...plus it was like 9:30. The bars are definitely NOT picking up at that time.

MegEn1

ryanandjoe4 said:

MegEn1 said:

kvruns said:

MegEn1 said:

Numbers were due to the caterer today and virtually nobody is coming to the wedding -- 123 out of 172.

123 are coming or 123 are NOT coming?

123 RSVP yes out of 172 invited guests -- well 175 now when FMIL started calling some of her friends who hadn't RSVPed she started adding people on in the family who 'never got their invites'. That was because they got cut way back in the day, you cut them ... okay in one case their invite got returned like two days later, no idea where it was in the mail for two weeks...

My MOH didn't get hers, and my brother's was sent back,my mom's we just got back 4 WEEKS later (where the hell did it go, she live 30 minutes from us!) so we started calling people, some had forgotten to respond, or were busy and cant make it any ways, some of our response cards were lost in the mail too..

if what your saying is because some have not responded, or have said no then your sending out "b-list" like invites because you have a 71% yes rate is really rude to those that were "cut way back in the day".. If the 29% have not responded at all, or are they all for sure absolutely not coming.. I just dont understand why 120 people is so bad, I invited 150 and only 115 are coming I am not upset or worried that 35 people wont be making it, I am ecstatic that 115 are coming...

Oh nobody got b-listed. Heck no. It was more that FMIL was calling cousin X who hadn't responded, and cousin X happens to be cousin Y's mom, so FMIL asked "Well is cousin Y coming?" and they were like "Oh yes and she'll have the vegetarian option!" FMIL is kinda scatter brained so when I was told her that she cut cousin Y from her list ages ago it was just kinda like well, whatever. No skin off my back either way. 

I guess with 171-175 invitees I was hoping for a few more. Though in the spirit of total honesty a lot of the no RSVPs are from my family including some of my favorite people, and in one case a bridesmaid. I'm not mad at any of them, just sad I won't get to see them. 

ryanandjoe4

MegEn1 said:

ryanandjoe4 said:

MegEn1 said:

kvruns said:

MegEn1 said:

Numbers were due to the caterer today and virtually nobody is coming to the wedding -- 123 out of 172.

123 are coming or 123 are NOT coming?

123 RSVP yes out of 172 invited guests -- well 175 now when FMIL started calling some of her friends who hadn't RSVPed she started adding people on in the family who 'never got their invites'. That was because they got cut way back in the day, you cut them ... okay in one case their invite got returned like two days later, no idea where it was in the mail for two weeks...

My MOH didn't get hers, and my brother's was sent back,my mom's we just got back 4 WEEKS later (where the hell did it go, she live 30 minutes from us!) so we started calling people, some had forgotten to respond, or were busy and cant make it any ways, some of our response cards were lost in the mail too..

if what your saying is because some have not responded, or have said no then your sending out "b-list" like invites because you have a 71% yes rate is really rude to those that were "cut way back in the day".. If the 29% have not responded at all, or are they all for sure absolutely not coming.. I just dont understand why 120 people is so bad, I invited 150 and only 115 are coming I am not upset or worried that 35 people wont be making it, I am ecstatic that 115 are coming...

Oh nobody got b-listed. Heck no. It was more that FMIL was calling cousin X who hadn't responded, and cousin X happens to be cousin Y's mom, so FMIL asked "Well is cousin Y coming?" and they were like "Oh yes and she'll have the vegetarian option!" FMIL is kinda scatter brained so when I was told her that she cut cousin Y from her list ages ago it was just kinda like well, whatever. No skin off my back either way. 

I guess with 171-175 invitees I was hoping for a few more. Though in the spirit of total honesty a lot of the no RSVPs are from my family including some of my favorite people, and in one case a bridesmaid. I'm not mad at any of them, just sad I won't get to see them. 

Oh, Well in that case I would have done the calls, I get it, we have a few people that couldn't make it, and I think one is my original MOH that backed out, but we have remained friends is talking like she doesn't want to come, that hurts we have been friends since 6th grade..

MegEn1

ryanandjoe4 said:

MegEn1 said:

ryanandjoe4 said:

MegEn1 said:

kvruns said:

MegEn1 said:

Numbers were due to the caterer today and virtually nobody is coming to the wedding -- 123 out of 172.

123 are coming or 123 are NOT coming?

123 RSVP yes out of 172 invited guests -- well 175 now when FMIL started calling some of her friends who hadn't RSVPed she started adding people on in the family who 'never got their invites'. That was because they got cut way back in the day, you cut them ... okay in one case their invite got returned like two days later, no idea where it was in the mail for two weeks...

My MOH didn't get hers, and my brother's was sent back,my mom's we just got back 4 WEEKS later (where the hell did it go, she live 30 minutes from us!) so we started calling people, some had forgotten to respond, or were busy and cant make it any ways, some of our response cards were lost in the mail too..

if what your saying is because some have not responded, or have said no then your sending out "b-list" like invites because you have a 71% yes rate is really rude to those that were "cut way back in the day".. If the 29% have not responded at all, or are they all for sure absolutely not coming.. I just dont understand why 120 people is so bad, I invited 150 and only 115 are coming I am not upset or worried that 35 people wont be making it, I am ecstatic that 115 are coming...

Oh nobody got b-listed. Heck no. It was more that FMIL was calling cousin X who hadn't responded, and cousin X happens to be cousin Y's mom, so FMIL asked "Well is cousin Y coming?" and they were like "Oh yes and she'll have the vegetarian option!" FMIL is kinda scatter brained so when I was told her that she cut cousin Y from her list ages ago it was just kinda like well, whatever. No skin off my back either way. 

I guess with 171-175 invitees I was hoping for a few more. Though in the spirit of total honesty a lot of the no RSVPs are from my family including some of my favorite people, and in one case a bridesmaid. I'm not mad at any of them, just sad I won't get to see them. 

Oh, Well in that case I would have done the calls, I get it, we have a few people that couldn't make it, and I think one is my original MOH that backed out, but we have remained friends is talking like she doesn't want to come, that hurts we have been friends since 6th grade..

Yeah I wish I could have. But FMIL is paying for the catering so she invited like 40-something friends and extended cousins that FI has met maybe once. So she insisted on calling these people, and since she paid ... eh. Like I said, no skin off my back at this point. They're strangers I'm likely never to even see again and at the very least they'll be well-hosted. Other than that it's out of my hands. 

ETA: Date twins. Or something. 

ryanandjoe4

MegEn1 said:

ryanandjoe4 said:

MegEn1 said:

ryanandjoe4 said:

MegEn1 said:

kvruns said:

MegEn1 said:

Numbers were due to the caterer today and virtually nobody is coming to the wedding -- 123 out of 172.

123 are coming or 123 are NOT coming?

123 RSVP yes out of 172 invited guests -- well 175 now when FMIL started calling some of her friends who hadn't RSVPed she started adding people on in the family who 'never got their invites'. That was because they got cut way back in the day, you cut them ... okay in one case their invite got returned like two days later, no idea where it was in the mail for two weeks...

My MOH didn't get hers, and my brother's was sent back,my mom's we just got back 4 WEEKS later (where the hell did it go, she live 30 minutes from us!) so we started calling people, some had forgotten to respond, or were busy and cant make it any ways, some of our response cards were lost in the mail too..

if what your saying is because some have not responded, or have said no then your sending out "b-list" like invites because you have a 71% yes rate is really rude to those that were "cut way back in the day".. If the 29% have not responded at all, or are they all for sure absolutely not coming.. I just dont understand why 120 people is so bad, I invited 150 and only 115 are coming I am not upset or worried that 35 people wont be making it, I am ecstatic that 115 are coming...

Oh nobody got b-listed. Heck no. It was more that FMIL was calling cousin X who hadn't responded, and cousin X happens to be cousin Y's mom, so FMIL asked "Well is cousin Y coming?" and they were like "Oh yes and she'll have the vegetarian option!" FMIL is kinda scatter brained so when I was told her that she cut cousin Y from her list ages ago it was just kinda like well, whatever. No skin off my back either way. 

I guess with 171-175 invitees I was hoping for a few more. Though in the spirit of total honesty a lot of the no RSVPs are from my family including some of my favorite people, and in one case a bridesmaid. I'm not mad at any of them, just sad I won't get to see them. 

Oh, Well in that case I would have done the calls, I get it, we have a few people that couldn't make it, and I think one is my original MOH that backed out, but we have remained friends is talking like she doesn't want to come, that hurts we have been friends since 6th grade..

Yeah I wish I could have. But FMIL is paying for the catering so she invited like 40-something friends and extended cousins that FI has met maybe once. So she insisted on calling these people, and since she paid ... eh. Like I said, no skin off my back at this point. They're strangers I'm likely never to even see again and at the very least they'll be well-hosted. Other than that it's out of my hands. 

ETA: Date twins. Or something. 

yep if she is paying, no worries then..

EDT: yes date twins, I cant get the picture and the ticker working on my ipad last night

ShesSoCold

My husband is mad at the doctor because we have shitty insurance and we received a large bill. I'm trying to explain that this is in no way the doctor's office's fault but he's not getting it. He's like an old man. I'm just sitting here like

lyndausvi

ShesSoCold said:

My husband is mad at the doctor because we have shitty insurance and we received a large bill. I'm trying to explain that this is in no way the doctor's office's fault but he's not getting it. He's like an old man. I'm just sitting here like

Actually I blame the doctor too.   Some doctors prices are set knowing insurance will just pick it up.   

DH was charged $600+ for a doctor to read an MRI and then refer him to another doctor.  That doctor never saw DH.  Only spoke through the ER doctor.   Our insurance wasn't that great either, so we had to pick up a lot of the costs.  

julieanne912

MegEn1 said:

ryanandjoe4 said:

MegEn1 said:

kvruns said:

MegEn1 said:

Numbers were due to the caterer today and virtually nobody is coming to the wedding -- 123 out of 172.

123 are coming or 123 are NOT coming?

123 RSVP yes out of 172 invited guests -- well 175 now when FMIL started calling some of her friends who hadn't RSVPed she started adding people on in the family who 'never got their invites'. That was because they got cut way back in the day, you cut them ... okay in one case their invite got returned like two days later, no idea where it was in the mail for two weeks...

My MOH didn't get hers, and my brother's was sent back,my mom's we just got back 4 WEEKS later (where the hell did it go, she live 30 minutes from us!) so we started calling people, some had forgotten to respond, or were busy and cant make it any ways, some of our response cards were lost in the mail too..

if what your saying is because some have not responded, or have said no then your sending out "b-list" like invites because you have a 71% yes rate is really rude to those that were "cut way back in the day".. If the 29% have not responded at all, or are they all for sure absolutely not coming.. I just dont understand why 120 people is so bad, I invited 150 and only 115 are coming I am not upset or worried that 35 people wont be making it, I am ecstatic that 115 are coming...

Oh nobody got b-listed. Heck no. It was more that FMIL was calling cousin X who hadn't responded, and cousin X happens to be cousin Y's mom, so FMIL asked "Well is cousin Y coming?" and they were like "Oh yes and she'll have the vegetarian option!" FMIL is kinda scatter brained so when I was told her that she cut cousin Y from her list ages ago it was just kinda like well, whatever. No skin off my back either way. 

I guess with 171-175 invitees I was hoping for a few more. Though in the spirit of total honesty a lot of the no RSVPs are from my family including some of my favorite people, and in one case a bridesmaid. I'm not mad at any of them, just sad I won't get to see them. 

?? A bridesmaid RSVP'd no to your wedding?  That's.... interesting.

And yeah, over half of FI's family and friends list were most of the Nos we received.  My starting list was much lower than his, but my part's acceptance rate was much higher.  He was pretty bummed about it.  

However, I would refrain from being a little melodramatic and saying "nobody" was coming to your wedding when you have 123 people coming... that's still a lot of people, and it's rather insulting to those that ARE coming that you think "nobody" is coming.  Like I mentioned, your current acceptance rate was higher than mine!  

ShesSoCold

lyndausvi said:

ShesSoCold said:

My husband is mad at the doctor because we have shitty insurance and we received a large bill. I'm trying to explain that this is in no way the doctor's office's fault but he's not getting it. He's like an old man. I'm just sitting here like

Actually I blame the doctor too.   Some doctors prices are set knowing insurance will just pick it up.   

DH was charged $600+ for a doctor to read an MRI and then refer him to another doctor.  That doctor never saw DH.  Only spoke through the ER doctor.   Our insurance wasn't that great either, so we had to pick up a lot of the costs.  

STUCK

Oh I agree. But my H thinks that the office just decided to bill him (just him) more because "they think he's made of money". He thinks they saw that he has shit insurance and decided to adjust his bill accordingly.