Let me begin by stating that I am completely aware that MOH and Maids are not required to do anything except show up to the wedding on time, in the chosen dress, preferably sober.
That being said, my MOH has taken her "duties" a little too seriously! I chose FI's younger sister bc she and I have a sisterly relationship ourselves and I can't imagine choosing anyone else. She was very excited when I asked her to do me this honor and stand beside me on the most important day of my life. We discussed budget (which FI's mom will be paying for her dress as she is still a college student with plenty of other expenses!), and I asked her if she would like to chose the dress herself so that it is something that fits her style and she would be comfortable in all night. I only have 1 other BM and had the same conversation with her, but she was not able to look for a dress so she gave me her budget and said whatever dress MOH chose, she would also wear (I am not worried bc both girls look amazing in just about anything they put on). Dress has been chosen, and MOH sent BM a photo and the color that would be ordered when the time comes. Cool.
A few weeks ago, when MOH was visiting to catch up on laundry and family time, she came to me with a print out of my "duties" and highlighted things that she knew FI and I had not completed yet. I laughed and asked "what's this for?" to which she replied "Now that you're finished nursing school and only have to focus on working, you guys need to get moving on a few of these things...the dates they are 'due' are fast approaching." I giggled a little and said "yes, thank you, we have set up appointments to get these taken care of!" I found out from BM a few days later that she had been send her very own list of "to do's." I told her not to worry, I would speak with MOH and let her know she is going a little overboard. Just a week ago, FMIL told me she was picking MOH up from the dorm bc she requested her help on bachelorette plans and shower ideas (our wedding isn't until May!).
I am all for planning and getting a jump on things...but holy cow this girl has got everyone's heads spinning!! I appreciate how involved she is and how much excitement she has for us, but she is just a ball of fire! I tried telling her that she should not feel obligated to take care of any of the planning, purchasing, prodding of other wedding party members, and her response is always (with a smile) "I know, but I enjoy planning and helping, and you're the closest person to a sister I have, so I want everything to be prefect for the two of you."
I love her to death, but I don't know how to take her down a notch or two without hurting her feelings.
Anyone have any advice or similar experiences?