Hi!
I am new to this website, but I am looking for guidance and support with a dilemma that I am in.
My fiance' & I decided to have a destination wedding in Portland, OR. Most of our family, live in CA. For personal reasons we wanted to have a small intimate family & adult only event. NO kids & NO friends.
Our deadline to RSVP was Sept 13. We were expecting about 20 but to our surprise 30 did RSVP. Now a couple weeks later, I am getting random RSVPs from people I don't know at all! Here is what happened...
Since we are a couple on a low budget, my mother offered to make the invitations for us. We gave her a list of the guests to invite. Unfortunately, she decided to invite some family "friends" (who neither of us have ever met) without our okay. She knew we wanted a small intimate wedding...
My mother & I got into a huge argument about this. (We are actually still fighting.) She is calling me cruel, mean, selfish, & a 'Bridezilla' for not letting everyone come who wants to and that it would be the worst possible thing ever to uninvite someone. Her argument is that family members who "offered" to help pay for a part of the wedding deserve to have their friends come... We are paying for most of the wedding, but our families did help pitch in. The bottom line is, we wish to keep it intimate, and so I told her that was not OK to invite people without my consent.
I have already had to uninvite one couple to our wedding. I apologized, and told them that 1. The RSVP deadline was a couple of weeks ago. 2. They 'accidentally' received the wrong invite (even though my mother sent it to them on purpose) 3. they will be getting the correct invite in the future for our 2nd wedding reception in California. It was very embarrassing, and hard to do. I was very apologetic. The couple said it was OK and that they would attend the 2nd reception in CA.
With that over with, I just received ANOTHER email from a random family friend about the wedding... I am not sure how much I can take this. My mother is threatening me that she will not attend the wedding because of this. We simply cannot afford to have friends show up to this wedding and we wanted it to be intimate. UGH!
Any advice on how to handle this situation would be much appreciated
Thank you!!!