Long story short:
Getting married in 6 months.
Almost three months ago I was in the hospital for a week, and a huge feud broke out while I was in there between my fiance and my family. Basically they blame him for me being in the hospital and that's not the case and at this point I've given up on trying to make them understand. They're set in their ways.
My mom has gotten over it for the most part, she finally started getting excited about dress shopping and such. My older brother went two months without asking me if I was okay, even when I immediately got out of the hospital, and when I brought it up, he said "I have a life and I shouldn't have to bother to check up on you every time you decide to put yourself in the hospital."
My dad and sister have been the worst. My dad will not talk to my fiance, and has said some pretty cruel things about my fiance's family, myself, my fiance, and our relationship. My fiance had done everything in his power to form a relationship with him but my dad has never met him halfway. He was supposed to help us pay for the wedding, but even before the hospital, my my dad had an angry outburst after I forgot to come over and help him clean (he's always been unstable and even the slightest thing will cause an overreaction) he said that he wished he hadn't even offered to help pay for it. Basically I moved in with my fiance without my dad's permission and so even before the hospital, and so his view towards my fiance has just progressively gotten worse.
My dad even told my aunt that if my fiance came with me to Christmas dinner, he will leave.
My older sister has always acted demeaning towards me and has always looked down on me, and since the hospital has stated that she does not like my fiance and does not think that we belong together.
I know it would kill my grandma if I didn't invite my dad or siblings, but every time I visit them or talk to them, they are very quick to say hurtful things and make me cry. Not just about my fiance or the wedding, but sometimes it's just about me.
So basically, what is the proper etiquette for inviting people who are unsupportive? Shouldn't a wedding be a celebration full of love and support? I will always question some of my family member's thoughts and feelings about my relationship with my fiance as well as my relationship with them.
Things have gotten so out of hand and I've gotten to the point where I've distanced myself from them, but every so often they'll attack me unprovoked. I don't want any negativity surrounding our marriage, especially at the very start.
I'm torn. They are my family, but they do not support us, and so part of me does not want them to be there because I feel like it would be dismissing their behavior and attitude.