I live abroad in my partner's home country. Unfortunately, my temporary visa is going to expire and we will need to get married somewhat quickly to stay together in the same country. As such, we have approximately 6 months to marry before my immigration paperwork will need to be submitted.
I would like my close friends and family members to be able to attend and participate in this important step in our lives. However, it feels a bit rude to surprise this news on them and expect them to buy an expensive plane ticket on such short notice (many of my friends have never been abroad and may not even have passports!). Our original thought was to have a courthouse ceremony with just our two immediate families, and then do some sort of "celebration" in a year or so, inviting our friends and extended family to that.
I feel like I'm in a tough situation -- I don't want my loved ones to feel left out of the process and I don't want to feel like I've missed out on having a real celebration. I also don't want to appear tacky or lessen the experience by having a reception/party/whatever-you-want-to-call-it a year after we've already been married.
Any thoughts? How would you feel if you were my friend or family member? Should we split the ceremony and the celebration, or just do it all at once (meaning some will be left out)?