I am getting married in August 2016. I recently had a close co-worker let it slip to me that she and some other ladies in our office are planning a wedding shower for me.
This made me uncomfortable:
A: Because they didn't ask my permission. And I feel very awkward about a work wedding shower.
B: Because I am not planning to invite all the people form my whole office to the wedding.
C: Because I have no idea who or how many people they'd invite - and what those people will think of it and I don't want it to look like it's my idea or that its a gift-grab
Our office has a history of doing these types of Baby showers, wedding showers, Milestone birthday celebrations, retirement or goodbye lunches. And most people just regard it as normal office friendly behavior and most will participate in some way, shape or form - Even the President will decorate for Christmas and bring potluck items for showers...so there is a bit of Office community environment at stake. Some co-workers will be annoyed if I put the Ki-bosh on this and think i'm a stick in the mud.
How do I handle this situation?